So so tired of this roundabout...

[Mum2Fergus]

Been with P since 2006 and have DS nearly 3. Its fair to say that arrival of DS drove a wedge between us but have dealt with that as best we could. Yet again tonight he's disclosed more debt that I wasnt aware of, and started the whole 'we've no life together, just parents who just exist' blah blah. I truly have no idea why we stay together. Convenience? Complacency? Im just tired of this perpetual loop with him. He only wants to converse about things that are important when he's been drinking (which is every night, I on the other hand have no need want or desire to have a conversation with him when he's been drinking...stalemate!

I was sat looking at him wimpering on tonight and honestly had to bite my tongue so as not to tell him to grow a set and feck off out of my life!!

Why did you bite your tongue? You obviously have things you want to get off your chest and the longer you leave it the worse it'll be.

It sounds like neither of you find the relationship satisfying. If you are both committed to your child you can be good parents apart and you should perhaps consider this rather than flogging a dead horse. I'm a bit biased speaking from experience - your dp sounds like me - I've been unhappy in my marriage for years and have given my dh the slightly drunken 'there's no future for me/us in this relationship spiel many times. He didn't want to accept it, but he finally does and we are separating. We have two children.

I don't want to make too many assumptions, but you don't sound like you want to be with him either. You may both be happier if you accept that things haven't worked out and decide how best you can move on as parents and as individuals. If you want to continue to work on your relationship you need to find a way to communicate and that's not working right now, so maybe give counselling a try and see if there's anything worth saving?