Family dilemma.................

[lemonstartree]

Last October I arranged with my three oldest friends from University a weekend in February when we could all meet up. We are all married and two of us have children It was quite hard to find a weekend we could all do. Anyway we fixed it for this month.

At the beginning of January my brother told me that he was planning to have his twins christened that same weekend. He is VERY angry that I have not cancelled the weekend with my friends to attend.

What would you do ?

Could do as lazycow says - perhaps an email explaining the whole thing again and reminding him about the fact you did point out the day was not good for you. Try to be rationale and objective, and end by saying if it is still his decision that he doesn't want to see you you will honour that (try to take the moral high ground...)

Only thing I'd say is maybe it would be better to actually speak to him rather than send an email

I think for all it's strengths email is not good for this sort of thing. Unless you are fantastic at getting a point across in writing it is open to all sorts of misinterpretation. Also you can judge all sorts of things about what a person thinks/feels by watching or listening to the way they say things. None of this is possible with email.

good luck

LC - I'm just a coward and hate confrontation so would go for the email option