Question regarding sex- embarrasing but im curious!

[PimpMyTunnel]

You know when your on top during sex, riding, enjoying yourself etc.. when do you stop? I mean if your partners not a moaner or heavy breather( like mine) when do you know he's 'cum'? I can't feel it happen inside me so I carry on

lifechanger, tsk tsk. stop it you are making me laugh.

op, it must be very annoying. you both need to talk about this.

Mine's a bit like that so I asked him to say "goal" so at least I know

I'm genuinely upset that people are making it a joke! I feel like crying actually over something so trivial :( its my bloody birthday in 1 hour and 52 minutes too :( shit shit shit :(

It's ok il get MNHQ to delete it. I feel like I've humiliated myself :(

Am I the only one who speaks during the deed? My DH makes a noise and a face and usually gives a final triumphant thrust when he comes, but he also says 'oh I'm gonna come' just before. And I usually would say the same when I was about to.
Would he not just tell you he was done and let you carry on?

I find that he loses his erection v quickly after coming so it all kind of stops anyway as there is nothing to ride anymore. Mine doesn't make any noise either really but he definitely looks different & grabs my arse. It doesn't matter if he's quiet does it OP?

My husband is the same and it makes me sad too.

So what normally happens after he's come? Does he ask you to stop? For my husband its uncomfortable if i carry on so he makes an aaaurrraaagghhhick noise if i just kept going.

can you ask him to tell you he's come?

i would find it all quite unnerving too!

Hmm this is a difficult one. The problem is that if you talk to him about this and tell him it's unnerving or it bothers you and then he suddenly starts being very vocal you're going to feel like he's putting it on.

I think you just need to try and get a bit of dialogue going during sex.

Ask him if whatever you're doing feels good, ask him to tell you when he's getting close, tell him when you are, tell him you want to cum at the same time (even if you don't) just to try and get some kind of response from him. Once you've done it a couple of times hopefully it might be a bit easier for him.

NO you haven't embarrassed yourself!

Not at all. Humour helps, though. That's why you've had these responses. By telling you we all regularly have to be on the watch for startled gerbil faces, unclear grunts or vague changes in bodily position, we are letting you know that You Are Not Alone.

TooEasilyTempted has just said along the same lines as me. You might have to start a sea change here. Talk a bit more, bit more lovey-dovey ness. Bit more communication. He will thaw...

Sorry, OP, that you have become upset; IMO you should be able to tell when your partner has climaxed and vice versa!

For the record, my beloved XP used to scream out with pleasure when he orgasmed ... after 45 seconds of penetrative sex!

Oh dear lovely. Bit of dirty talk or maybe ask him to gasp i'm coming or something? My bf looks like he is going to cry so maybe that's worse?

OP Do YOU orgasm? Genuine question?

I know that this seems quite intrusive but have you ever had the experience? It gives huge pleasure and leaves one gasping for breath!!! It's a joy!