Feeling weird about ancient exh

[donnasummer]

I'll blame it on the rain. I've been preoccupied with the past lately and I found details of an exh - was a brief marriage in my early 20s and because I was going through lots of crp myself I didn't treat him well. Anyway I surfed online today and found him, looking old and battered, living on a different continent. It's weird but seeing him brought back lots of memories. I haven't had as intense a relationship since. I feel sad for what could have been if I had been in a better place, I suppose. Just made me think how hit and miss life can be.

gawd, if I ever saw my ancient ex I would have a heart attack I think

I reckon he won't have worn well, for a pretty boy. His lifestyle will made sure of that.

I imagine him as a really down-at-heel and slightly unsavoury Billy Zane. Not in a good way.

yeah he hadn't worn too well, I just feel really sad about it all, don't know why

well, my ex has lots of reasons why I might feel sorry for him, tbh

I guess you got your life together eggy? I am still working on that myself, hence the introspection I suppose

oh is this an easter name change? duh

Yes, fancy some choccy ?

donna, I did....eventually

thanks this is ninah, donnas is my v v embarrassed name
shall I friend him on fb? or is that too sad
I am curious tbh, and it's not like we'll meet up ever

nooooo, don't go there

yy knew you'd say that! don't know what's got into me this hols
I feel guilty about the past
reassuring to know you have a raddled old ex too I guess!

thanks ladies, I am in a more sane place this morning! ...
I know you are right just needed to hear it. I suppose what it really means is that people don't change - he is now the ageing alcoholic he was in training for when I knew him - I recognise a lot of the behaviour, so it's not like I made him that way - avoiding spending the last 20 years married to him and/or having his kids was a sound move
he really is like something from a somerset maughan novel!
saddled with raddled, I like it

I tried to friend my raddled ancient ex on fb, the bastard blocked me.

So I felt angry and rejected all over again... waste of time and energy.

Thank god I'm not with him now. Was a close shave indeed. I haven't had passion as strong since, but that's a good thing.

Oh I love a bit of ex-on-FB looky-seeing.

My second ever favourite ex is unrecognisable, in the way that Donna describes. Thinking of him still makes me smile. I think we could be friends.

The Big One though doesn't seem to have any online presence at all. Which given the feelings I still have (despite being happy with dp for 15+ years) is probably for the best. Though I am going back to his hometown for a hollybob in September (hence the make-Buch-look-20-years-younger-project )

Eggy- I didn't recognise you with your name d'oh. Was too busy being and at That Thread.

My XP is whooping it up sailing in sparkling blue seas on a gorgeous yacht in the Caribbean.
I suspect, though that he remains the self-absorbed knobber that he always was.

(mine aren't husbands btw, never had one of those critturs)

You want to be careful there.

I searched for an ex (not an h) on facebook to show my kids a while back. Someone (eggy will confirm my lack of it nous) i managed to accidentally click something which showed me feeds from his public stuff..there was plenty of it.

Needless to say, he hadnt changed much, and I already knew from a mutual friend that he was sleeping on someone's floor last year after another affair (couldnt keep it on his trousers, that man, but at least I ditched him).

The shock nearly killed me, as I imagine he was able to see that I had searched him. I blocked him out sharpish and wont be looking up others!

IT nous, as in computer knowledge!

what thread, Bucharest ?

there are some right fucking shockers around at the moment ! I reckon you mean the DV one

where is everyone else's Easter name ?

@ fiventhree

Yep. Thazzit.

'kin 'Ada.

(I thought about Buchareggs but y'know....)

what about BuckyEgg (like ChuckyEgg) ?

I had FuckyEgg for a while last year

5n3 I hope it doesn't show if you have searched someone! I'm guessing not ....
it is interesting though, like online sliding doors. It could have been me holding his jacket and yawning ....
and no I won't be showing the dc! already bad enough having to explain the v 1980s wedding pic - who's he mum? you never think these things may come back to bite you in your would be bohemian salad days
reassuring this is a recognised pastime - should have called myself easter ex hunt
(searches for other thread)