Should we go on if we have just become friends?

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Apologies for name changing.
Myself and my DH have been together for about 13 years, we have 1 DS. Basically we have drifted apart over the years, we still get on and like each other (most of the time) but we don't have a sex life.

We have been going to counselling to try to sort out our relationship and so far we have focussed on how we communicate and are doing quite well at that. The trouble is we can go to any amount of counselling but I just don't fancy him anymore.

Is anyone in a marriage where they are just friends? Should I stay in it? Is it better for our DS if I'm honest or will it just cause issues?

My opinion is why stay in something that isn't right for you? Being intimate is an important part of a happy relationship and yes it will cause issues unless neither of you is bothered about the physical side of things.

If you've been going to counselling you must think it's a problem. If a sex-life is important to you, be honest, end the marriage and find someone new to have that kind of relationship with. What's best for DS is parents that aren't just tolerating each other.

I haven't been in a relationship as long term as yours but I've heard it said that relationship change over time. 'For better for worse' and 'through thick and thin' - could this be a rocky patch that you may be able to work through.

Why don't you fancy him, has his appearance changed dramatically? Has he put on/lost excessive weight etc. Is this something he could address?

It has been an on-going issue I think. I wasn't bothered about sex for a long time and he just put up with that.

Now things are working again, I want sex, just not with him. It's like too much has happened and we are different people and he just doesn't do it for me (sorry, that sounds awful I know).

It is hard, it's not that I dislike him. With the counselling, it seems that the more we learn to communicate and get on the more I seem to think we probably shouldn't be together (although I haven't said this in the sessions). He does deserve someone who loves him more I think.