Online Dating - help me arrange these "dates"!

[ChickenSkin]

Guy no.1 - sounds nice, genuine, no rushing, no pestering - sounds a very laid back 'safe' kind of guy. He's just asked me (after around 4 days of messaging) if I fancy meeting him at some point. I've agreed and he's asked where/when and what so to speak. Options he's given are an evening drink, a daytime coffee, go and see a band or walk in the park. He'd probably agree to other stuff too - what should I do? what would you do?

Guy no.2 - the bouncer guy. First spoke to him yesterday, today he asked if I fancied meeting up. I agreed and he's suggested a very specific coffee place in a specific shopping mall. What do you reckon? do i just concentrate on guy no1 for now or go to both?

Based on that information I would go for no 1.

Which would no doubt mean that he is a no good, scummy, philandering sociopath... so perhaps you should stick with no 2!

HTH

Both. It's early days, keep your options open.

Both. why on earth would you want to choose at such an early stage? You aren't committed to either- and neither are they. The whole point of internet dating is that you have the exposure to lots of people who you would nromally take ages to meet in other social situations- so don't cut down on the chances of finding Mr Right.
You do sound very uncertain about all of this - are you sure it's for you?

I'm just scared. What if they take one look at me and think "Jesus, get me outta here".

Or what if I'm feeling that about them?

I know it's all part of the experience but I've never done this before. I'm nervous as hell!

Just have a coffee with both of them. A coffee doesn't commit you to hours of painful interaction if they turn out to be a nightmare. If it is horrific, explain that you've left your DCs with your mum & she's not very well, so you have to dash!!!!!
Try not to be too nervous. At the end of the day, you are just meeting another human being - don't build it up too much in your head. You don't know them, they don't know you - you are just going to have a coffee to see how you get on.

Chickenskin - I feel your pain! It is nervewracking, is this your first time

I'd arrange daytime coffees with both. make sure you have a get out clause which you can change (if you feel like it at the time!)

Have you done much dating at all- before you were married?

It's not that different- they will have seen photos of you so they are asking you out on that basis.

Al you are investing is an hour or so of your time. If you are bored or they are not your type than be courteous and thank them for meeting you, either than or by email/text and if you don't want to see them again then just say that it's not working quite for you and wish them well.

My brotehr has done quite a bit of internet dating and he appreciates honesty rather than being left guessing.

Both

My dating history is terrible. My very first relationship involved me starting college one day, becomming obsessed with a guy there within a week and falling pregnant to him a few months later we were together 7 years. After that I was single for a few years and then met a guy from POF. That went ok and I was him for a few years and then it all imploded whilst we were on holiday in Ibiza!!

This is the first time I've gone for the whole dating thing whilst being confident of what I want and who I am. Sounds daft but its the first time I've gone into something like this feeling like an adult!