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cybersex!

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toptramp · 03/04/2012 21:33

I had it with a cute guy on a website last night. Now he's being all distance. Was fun and not normally the sort of thing i'd do! And far less messy!

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14UnitsMyArse · 03/04/2012 21:33

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toptramp · 03/04/2012 21:35

Chomp.

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solidgoldbrass · 03/04/2012 21:35

So? It can be fun, but I hope you're aware that unless a webcam was involved, your 'cute guy' could have been an absolute pig-in-a-wig, a cute girl or indeed a 10-foot-tall lizard from outer space.

Goawaybob · 03/04/2012 21:53

ten foot lizard from outer space - sgb, you have been reading too much nancy friday.

toptramp - of course he is, move on to the next one - have fun, thats all it is, a bit of fun, no more, no less

MyLittleMiracle · 03/04/2012 22:16

Ohh never done it on web cam.....maybe i should have a go at that with a new partner! Not so sure though.

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toptramp · 03/04/2012 22:21

No webcam; might be a lizard or a complete trog for all I know! Just thought I would share. Mabe webcam is the way foward but need to work out how to use it!

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solidgoldbrass · 03/04/2012 22:25

If you are going to use a webcam, be a little careful ie keep your face out of it or wear a wig or something. Because there is a possibility of someone you are having cyberfun with doing a screengrab or two and sharing your bits and pieces with the rest of cyberspace.

But TBH it's more fun without. Because you can imagine it's Johnny Depp or whoever at the other keyboard rather than being confronted with someone who might have an excellent imagination and vocabulary but a face like a stamped bat.

MyLittleMiracle · 03/04/2012 22:44

I have to agree, its different if it is just your partner and you know it wont be being shared.

Goawaybob · 03/04/2012 22:58

Yes, i want my cyber partners to have a brain, i don't care what they look like to be honest, i have a perfectly hunky lovely man who does it for me at home, so lizzard trog or randy vicar, makes no odds (i believe i've had both).

Goawaybob · 03/04/2012 22:59

No webcam for me though - you can do one way, but who really wants to watch some man with his trousers around his ankles pulling himself off!

ladymariner · 03/04/2012 23:11

Ok you can all laugh if you want ( but please don't!) but what exactly is cybersex? I'm obviously very naive but I'm reading this and I havn't a bloody clue. ( there, I've said it......)

skullandcrossbones · 03/04/2012 23:26

ladym - cybersex is having sex over the www, with or without webcam, using something like msn (instant messaging) to communicate, lots of chat to get you turned on, can end in mutual masturbation, or whatever you fancy really.
(I'm sure someone else can explain it better than me!)

lovesineffable · 03/04/2012 23:38

well call me vanilla, but the idea leaves me cold..i dont need instructions for diy, as for watching some bloke on a webcam eww..i'd rather find some porn

Goawaybob · 03/04/2012 23:43

lovesineffable, for me is about flirting, being someone else, an interactive fantasy - ive overdone it thouh, and dont do it so much now

skullandcrossbones · 03/04/2012 23:45

lol at loves - they don't give you instructions, they just tell you what they are doing to you :)

ladymariner · 03/04/2012 23:45

Ok thanks, feel a bit more informed now Skull, didn't want to sound ridiculous but really didnt know what it was.

McFluffster · 03/04/2012 23:49

Goaway Tell me if I'm being too nosey but do you have cyber sex while in a relationship? Does your DP know and if so how does he feel about it? I'm quite interested, haven't done anything like that for years and then only with boyfriends over the phone etc, is it widely considered cheating or not as no physical/emotional contact etc?

Goawaybob · 03/04/2012 23:54

Ive been with my partner for 20 years, he know about it, he doesn't mind - it means he can forgo foreplay There is no physical contact whatsoever

Goawaybob · 03/04/2012 23:56

DP has more of a problem with the time i spend Mnetting than my more dubious web activities, but i actually don't do it hardly at all now - you can have too much of a good thing

lovesineffable · 04/04/2012 00:00

i understand that it works for some but no kissing and no skin contact=no point for me!

MyLittleMiracle · 04/04/2012 00:00

Does over the phone count as cyber sex? I thought that was sexting? I am unsure now?

McFluffster · 04/04/2012 00:04

That's kind of what I was thinking! Although you're interacting with an actual person it's all anonymous, there's absolutely nothing physical in it so no real cause for alarm and it's obviously never led to anything further developing on your side either so not harmful (even quite positive) for the relationship but at the same time I'm not entirely sure how I'd feel about my partner doing it. It's a weird one!

Goawaybob · 04/04/2012 00:06

Mcfluffster i have terrible double standards, id put DPs balls in a blender if i found him doing it! He wouldnt though --cos he never gets a chance to use the laptop*

McFluffster · 04/04/2012 00:16

I think my double standards are the same as yours! It's something I could imagine doing with no emotional fallout whatsoever at all on my side but I know I would worry there was more to it and it was possibly leadibg somewhere more sinister if I found out DP was doing it!

WibblyBibble · 04/04/2012 00:20

Goawaybob, which site has randy vicars?? wants one

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