Can anyone figure this out?

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Okay so been on here recently about relationship with guy I have know for 14 months, BUT my on Big puzzle and call me a dumb glutz for not getting it is, why has he not introduced me to his 4 kids , even one would have been nice , I mean I get the thing that he maybe does not want any hassle but I just cant get my head around it, thoughts and pearls of wisdom would be appreciated.

What type of relationship do you have with this guy? Is it exclusively monogamous or fuck buddy friends with benefits? How often do you see him?

Do you have dc and, if so, has be met them?

Does he talk about his dc? Have you suggested that you meet one/all of them sometime?

We have a relationship see each other every 2nd weekend as he lives 100miles away,yea I have a DC age 21 but still at home and yea he has met them, yea he has talked about his dcs and has eventually told them about me, they are older as well , but they are religous his DC and his ex and all his family so maybe this tells a story , thanks for the interest . Yes I did ask to meet them he saidihe would but has never bothered so i just have left it I think if someone wants to include you in an aspect of their life they will or not as the case is.

Have you asked him?

Yes from the word go since we have been toghether it always raised its head i got stressed and now just fed up so dont even mention it .

It seems obviously to me. He doesn't need to. With 100 miles separating your lives except once a fortnight there is no mileage in him involving his grown DC. I wouldn't be surprised if he keeps your life with him very low key and I wouldn't be surprised if many of his friends or family know little or nothing about you.

Why not go stay with him for a few weekends and get to see his friends and family that way? Sometimes though you might be be better off just the way it is. After all, it is what it is, simple and with few complications. If the arrangement otherwise does not bother you what you don't know won't hurt you.

Thanks for that and you are right about what you say regarding our relationship , I have been to stay and met a few of the family members , as you say it is what it is, we are good friends there is no harm in him i am fond of him we have fun when he comes down , so maybe i should just accept things the way they are, thanks for your thoughts rightchoice.

You are welcome, my though is why complicate it. He might just be sparing your feelings if the older DC don't want to know, so enjoy, you might just be the lucky one!

Yes ! I agree thanks again rightchoice.