Ds brought up past abuse few weeks ago again.
I should tell SS manager (agreed to do this in last meeting) why I don't know as no legal follow up.
Ss manager contacted, no phone call back. So went to solicitor yesterday, I explained my fears with going back to SS. She agreed that this situation is tricky and too worried it backfire reporting it (as explained it as Izzyizin said). Worried ds could be put on 'child in need' register. Solicitor agrees with these concerns also.
Solicitor then said about discussing the situation with school because ds told dc in playground. He may tell teacher and if they don't know history (they know ex used to attack house (again i did not tell them but 1:1 broke confidentiality) but not about the abuse as police told by SS I was making up because I don't get maintenance).
So solicitor doesn't know if I should/shouldn't tell school? She agrees if ds discloses in school then they follow their own Child Protection. She will get back to me on that. Can I have other views/advice on telling school?
SW told me at meeting 2 months ago not to tell school as they do not need to know.
I don't want school to know but don't know if they should know some of the history?
I just don't want it to blow up hence told solicitor I am not telling SS the disclosure this time (not new anyhow just ds remembering it and needing to talk about it).
On weekend ds asked me to type in name of place ds said he 'lived' (ds granp house where he would stay 2/3 times a yr for 1 night and visit few hours one pm a week with dgp). I asked ds would he like to visit grandp and he said no just want to see house. I felt bad as it may induce more memories seeing house on google map and hence more disclosures that I feel I can't go to SS about because of being judged, ds didn't say anything though.
Should I tell school? This will spark SS? Private school ds already 'special needs' don't want another even worse label 'abused child':( all the teachers would know....where is ds privacy and dignity if disclosed:(
Please some tell me I am right not wanting to have to tell school also?