Will I be alone forever

[hagendaas]

I've namechanged for this because I feel embarrassed by my feelings. I can't tell you how lonely I feel. I'm scared I'll be alone forever. I've been on my own for years, I've tried allsorts of ways to meet someone and I've also had healthy spells of being on my own and feeling ok with that. I'm getting older and can't believe most of my 30's have passed me by and I'm still on my own. It makes me feel so sad. We only have one life and I'm so scared I'll be alone forever. I don't know what else to do except just accept I'm on my own. Sorry, I do feel very self indulgent but just had to get it off my chest. I'm not a person for telling my real life friends how I feel. Thanks for reading.

No one knows what the future holds. If you have friends you may live on your own, but you are not alone. I've been unhappily married and happily alone, and I know which one I'd pick any day of the week.
Tell your friends, you never know, one of them may know someone who is perfect for you :)

The grass always seems greener on the other side. I have friends who are married, friends who have lots of other friends yet strangely enough, although they're surrounded by all these people they are lonely and not truly happy with their lot. They just go through the motions.

Try not to lay so much emphasis on meeting someone, you don't need someone to feel complete. Keep yourself busy and then one day when you least expect it someone may very well come along.

You say life is short, yes it is. Too short to be waiting around for someone who may never come. Just get on with it and enjoy it for what it is.

So sorry you are feeling bad. I have no family whatsoever. Not had even a real date in 15 years . I went through this too. However, I changed my life from doing something I hated, to doing something I loved. And that changed me. It changed the friendships I have. I suppose being happy makes me a more attractive person both for friendships and for men. I don't want to date due to past abuse, but these days I do get asked out - by good looking men 20 years younger than me But its about being in the right place at the right time. I am at uni surrounded by young men who like my confidence and sense of humor, even though maybe I am a bit more worn looking than girls old enough to be my daughter.

I think what I am trying to say is how are the other aspects of your life? Is there anything you are really passionate about? Do you get out and do new things to meet new people?

And yes, the grass is greener. When you are single there is hope round every corner. If you are stuck in a horrible relationship and lonley in that, there is not so much hope.