Would you/ have you admitted to snooping?

[GeorgieWilson]

Long time lurker - after a bit of advice/experience please?

If you had snooped on your DP (regretted it) and found out something that he hadn't told you (not cheating), and then lied to you about when you later asked would you admit to the snooping and ask him about it?

Depends why you snooped
Depends what you found
Depends what your relationship is like as a whole

It would depend on what the issue was and I'd wonder why he wanted to keep it from me in the first place. Perhaps he thought it would just upset you and you'd be best off in ignorant bliss.

In a nutshell - he's not happy at work and is applying for lots of other jobs - all over the country, which is the nature of his job and he's told me about his various options
We've done long distance before and as long as he still wants to have a future I'll do it again. But have asked for a fair bit of reassurance that he still wants a future recently because of the job - hunting.
Have been badly scarred by a lying and cheating XP in the past and admittedly am insecure. Dp is nothing like that and had a similar past experience. Relationship is pretty good, but admittedly since we've lived together - less effort with the affection.
Only snooped the once (in three years which was incredibly restrained with my insecurity)- as he put his phone down as if it had burned him when I walked in the room one day and it just seemed so suspicious the way he then acted.
Found that he'd applied for a job (away) and got offered an interview, but not told me. And I've asked him general questions since and he has lied.

Can't understand why he hasn't mentioned that one job but has all the others! Don't know how to challenge him for it - if I admit I've spied I'm just as bad! Its not really a good job/ or one he'd take so not sure if he just can't be arsed with me getting worried about it. But I can't cope with being lied to again and the way it makes me feel.

You can't really admit to the snooping without looking suspicious. You can ask why he put the phone down suddenly and say it made you uncomfortable. You can then, quite legitimately, follow on from that by asking him to be up-front about his plans and reassuring him that you'd prefer to know the full story, even if he thinks it would upset you.