I am not sure if I'm looking for advice or just want to moan! Myself and my husband have been together for 13 years and have 3 boys. About 7 years ago he got made redundant and since then has had a series of crappy jobs and has gradually got more and more depressed and angry. Last year his sister died from cancer and we had been looking all her kids and his family, they are all quite horrible and turned on him in a really nasty way. This caused him to have a bit of a mini breakdown. I suggested he go to counselling to help deal with the grief and pain. However, what seems to have happened is that he has turned all his anger onto me and the boys. Nothing we ever do is good enough and he is so angry with us all the time. The boys are starting to notice and my eldest (11) has been playing up both here and at school. I am finding that I have to defend my children in front of them and get OH to lay off. I have a really demanding full time job (teacher) and I do all the running around with the kids. I tend to do all the cooking, homework etc. My OH used to be so laid back and caring, now we have nothing to say to each other, no intimacy and I am finding myself groaning when he starts ranting. Weekends are the worst as he just doesn't stop and by sun eve I am so angry with him. He says that I am making him out to be the negative feature and that all the trouble is his fault. I have been so supportive esp last year when his sister was so ill. I took teenage girls into my home and looked after them only to have it thrown back in my face and I have put up with daily abuse from the rest of his family. I am always the one to back down and I think I have had enough. I do love him but I don't like him at the moment, he is so verbally nasty. I know he is not himself but this has been getting worse for years:-( I suggested couples counselling but we actually can't afford it as we are paying for his private counselling as well. Thanks for taking the time to read this xx