He's leaving us! DS is only 8mo :(

[WinterLover]

He told me about a month ago he was 'unhappy and had been for a few months' I then heard from a friend that we'd split up.. He then told me the following weekend that he thought we'd be better off apart. I've had for the past month we've split up, no we've not, we've split up, no we've not.

I've now said enoughs enough I'm moving out. He said he would but he a)can't afford it and b) doesn't have time.

Since I've not been trying to get him to stay he's got all nasty, trying to cause arguments, making out reasons ie I apparently think he's cheated/cheating... No idea where that ideas come from as that thought has never crossed my mind.

He now has a female 'friend'. So now apparently I have issues with her, don't like him talking to her blah blah blah again he can be friends with who he like I have male friends, he has female friends it's never been an issue before.

I know I'm doing the best thing for DS but it really hurts, I'm trying to be strong and not get led into an argument. I just want to move out and start a fresh :(

Reading back I'm not sure why I'm posting, maybe hoping someone has some words of wisdom for me :)

He is cheating. Sorry.

I think so too.

And he cant be arsed to move out and doesnt have time?

So you and a baby should do so????

I'm glad you are not putting up with his game playing and are moving on. Whose name is the house rented/owned in? How are your finances arranged? Joint assets or debts? Think practical and stay strong

Chuck him out because he's treating you like an idiot. Pack his stuff into bin bags and throw them out of a window. Fancy having to hear from a friend that a relationship is over. He wants to be with someone else but is being too lazy to shift himself. Stay put and make the decision for him....

Yep he's cheating. Just have a look at the very recent 10 page thread on this board.

So sorry. He's an arse!

He is cheating. and trying to have his cake and eat it.

If legal, throw him out.

if you have joint mortgage or tenancy agreement it may be a bit harder.

I'm so sorry. He has probably been cheating since before the baby was born.

Funny you should say about bin bags that's what his mother told me to do with his stuff. I can't financially keep our rented place, it's in joint names at the min.

All the furniture etc is mine so he'll have a nice big, empty house

It doesn't even matter if he's cheating (he probably is) but it's the least of your issues. Move on, get out, forget about him.

Well done on being free of this waste of carbon, WinterLover! I wish you much happiness.

oh chuck him out.

You've got enough on your plate, you don't need this manchild too...

Winter, sweetie, you have a child together, a family, and he's treating you like "yeah, you're chucked - no you're not" He needs to grow the fuck up, - maybe his mum can help him do that - twat.

Take all the support you can from her, and from anyone else who offers their help.

Love, sometimes they do just turn out to be tossers.

So sorry.

If you feel you will be better able to cope in a new cheaper place then move out, take everything that's yours, disentangle yourself immediately from any bills and pursue him for maintainence for your ds. He is plainly an utter git and you are better off in every sense without him. Also I would get a full STD screen done just in case.

Thankyou all will get a full screen not that we've done that much since DS was born.

By getting a cheaper house it means I get a bit more money to take DS swimming etc plus we moved to this place as a family me, DP and DSD then DS came along. So a fresh start in new house would make me feel better

oh god, not again :( These threads make me feel so so sad - bloody fucking bastards

Thankyou Mary I will check the lease

I'm with the bin bag course of action. Preferably as quickly as possible.