"Women who don't 'put out' by the 3rd date are playing mind games"

[KarmaK]

Comment from a male acquaintance.

I actually burst out laughing.

He said he could understand the delay only if the woman was a virgin.

I guess this guy uses his personality as a method of contraception :)

"I guess this guy uses his personality as a method of contraception"

Liars wife, that is a fantastic line :)

Ugh I wouldn't want to be with anyone who uses the words 'put out'. boak

Last girl I dated properly waited till date #5, which was fine by me. Although none have been that long before!

Interesting. I can't imagine myself having sex before 12 or so dates. At date 5 I'm only just really starting to properly know the person. It's a personal thing but I don't need or want someone I hardly know to be literally inside my body.

My boyfriend made ME wait! I was climbing the walls after a month!

i cant imagine even bothering to go on a date with someone i didnt desperatly want to fuck, but its not for everyone i guess. I wouldnt be that interested in someone who wanted to wait too long

not that id think it would be mind games, just that it would mean we had different attitudes to sex

Dinah, don't quite get your first post. Do you mean 3 dates is too long to wait for sex, for you?

after my wild phase, I instigated a 12 week rule. I slept around enough in my late teens and wanted to address my attitudes to sex.

I dont regret it, and only broke it once. to quote HIMYM, "men regret the women the women they dont sleep with, women regret the men they do"

yes probably, but i wouldnt put a rule on it

He sounds like a nice chap

It should be only a question for the two people involved. If, mutual;y, you want to fuck on the first date, great. But I cannot bear the idea of men having a prescribed time within which they expect a shag. Yuck.

Thats true, but anyone has the right to lose interest at any time, especially in such early days.

Its a bit crap to put a time limit on it, but tbh i think if he was really into someone, he'd probably wait, despite what he says, as would i, if it came down to it.
It sounds like bravado

Dinah, that's quite interesting. There are LOADS of guys who I go on one or two dates with before deciding I don't want to pursue a relationship with them. I can't even imagine having sex with them. I'd feel horrible about that!

@ 'try sheep'

I think it depends on your motivation for dating. If you are looking for a purely physical relationship, then I can't see why you'd wait 3 dates either.

However, if you are looking for something more significant, then I'd want to know who I was getting into bed with (literally!). I'd want to feel comfortable with their motivation for a relationship & their feelings towards me. I have no idea if that would take 3 dates of 15 dates - but I'd be deciding that!

He's a twunt.

Next.

Such a gentleman. (I know that's a very old-fashioned term but honestly he deserves to be very inlucky with the ladeez.) On another note, who are the mothers who bring these tossers up?

God, you wonder where these knuckle-dragging throwbacks come from.

The expression 'to put out' makes me go red behind the eyes, apart from anything else - the implication that sex is something men 'get' from women, who are anxiously rationing it/postponing to 'get' something they want from men in return.

My riposte to this kind of pillock tends to involve asking him when he's willing to 'put out', and trying to get him to think about why he sees sex as something men 'get' and women 'give'. Grr.

me and my bf actually use that expression in a jokey way

It is actually a Americanism - if a little dated.