Do I need to sort out my wedding obsession?

[bemusedperson]

Title says it all really (namechanger). I'm in a two-year-and-a-bit relationship - as far as I'm concerned this is it; things couldn't be better.

However, in the last few months I've become obsessed with weddings - secretly googling wedding stuff, particularly engagement rings, daydreaming about our imaginary wedding constantly. This has come as a bit of a shock since I'm pretty unfluffy and generally not that much of a girly girl - and have other things (job/hobbies/social life) to fill my time.

We're late 20s - EVERYONE we know is getting married so wedding plans, hen dos and engagement parties are all around. I do enjoy the escapism and other people have also been stoking my obsession in a 'you're next' way.

DP has lately been dropping various hints about a future proposal (eg about saving for a wedding), so I'm not totally deluded or anything, but given that it's not likely to be much before the end of the year at the earliest, how do I dial this down and get a grip? We're not even engaged yet and I'm in bridezilla territory!

Congratulations!

Congratulations

Aw, what a nice update Congratulations!

Congratulations!

I knew from our first date we would get married and had planned our entire wedding well before DH proposed. This led to some awkward moments when I googled venues with him and I somehow knew exactly what to search for! I was also put out when he had his own ideas about the wedding that weren't in my plan

However as long as your plans are realistic, within a sensible budget and focussed on a marriage not a wedding, blog away! I thought I was quite practical until I started ordering wedding pebbles.... (honestly, every wedding needs wedding pebbles)

Thanks!

Kundry I fear this may be an issue for me too ... and I hear pebbles are pretty much de rigeur

I was aided by DH being abroad so I booked most of it by myself - conveniently the venue I had liked all along etc etc

Here are the pebbles. In an even more bonkers touch, they're from America

www.etsy.com/shop/personalizedpebbles?ref=seller_info

Just be aware that no-one is as interested in your wedding as you are and you will be fine

I did this. We had been together 7 years by the time we got engaged. After the initial excitement of the engagement, picking the ring together etc I found the whole wedding planning thing stressful, expensive and annoying. I couldn?t wait for it all to be over. If I had my time all over again I?d have had a tiny ceremony, no white dress and a big non-weddingy party. I am happily married, which is great (touch wood) because it means I never have to have another wedding!