What do I do???

[moonriver]

I did put this in Chat a few days back, but could do with more opinions, I am due to see my friend tomorrow and really need to decide what to do by then...

Ive been placed in quite tight spot by a friend of mine and could really do with some advice from people who arent so emotionally close to the whole thing.

A friend of mine (let`s call him A) is about to have his first baby with his partner. He is very happy and excited about it.

We are both friends with another guy (lets call him B). They are the best of friends, and the three of us have been friends for a long time.

B decided to confess to me that he slept with As girlfriend about 8 months ago, and that shes also been seeing other people behind his back.

This knowledge is tearing me apart. I cannot believe that B would do this to his friend, it would totally destroy their friendship and he would never talk to me again if I told A. But a big part of me really thinks he should know.

Do I tell him? Yes or No?

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No. If you are going to talk to anyone talk to B, or to A's girlfriend. It's their job to decide whether to confess to A or not. Not yours.

Wow what a can of worms. I'd talk to the girlfriend and ask her wtf she's playing at.

I agree, talk to the girlfriend. Sounds to me like she knows A is a good reliable guy so keeping quiet. I just hope something is said before baby comes along. My DH was in a relationship with a girl about 5 years ago (who he lived with) and they had a baby. He found out when they had a fight that the baby wasn't his, they had a DNA test and it was proved that the baby wasn't his. He got to know that baby as his own for 10 months and totally fell in love with that child. Even now he says " oh he'd be xx years old now". After he found out he broke down (we were friends at this time), he took to drinking (a lot) and went into a downwards spiral. I pulled him out of it, we're married and have a baby now and obviously a lot has changed and he is happy again. He always says that he wish he'd have known since before the baby came along because it was so heartbreaking.

Sorry if that makes your choice even harder. I'm sure you just want someone to tell you what to do. If it helps I was in a situation recently where I didn't know whether to say something and I did...it's all kind of gone quiet and I'm waiting for it to explode. It's really tough when you try and make decisions that effect other people but really you can't. Definitely start with the girlfriend.

Are you convinced that B is telling the truth?

Who's the father for sure??