dont want this to be a MIL bashing thread but it does concern her. Have always got on with my MIL by trying to placate her and keep the peace. She is always in conflict with one or more members of the family and constantly Slags off her other dils to anyone who will listen. My husband had to take a job away for a few months and she said she would look after my dd when I had to work (said she was grateful for the distraction, she offered I didn't ask, I was going to start her in nursery) my dh persuaded me that this arrangement was best. She then got a full time job but said she would still have her she really wanted to etc, I could work around her and she said she could do any days etc. He has only been away 4 weeks and MIl has told me twice at the last minute that she couldn't have dd. I have had to let work down. Because of this I have made arrangements for her to start nursery (she doesn't know this yet).
Ds and I were at PIL s last week and dd had a tantrum I was dealing with it the way I do at home, ignoring it, no eye contact and distract, I try not to reward tantrums and she rarely has one. She was going " ah poor little girl he needs a cuddle, what do you want here have it etc) I asked her to do as I was doing but she wouldn't, she then picked her up and screamed that I was being stupid I said that she was my child and I would deal with things as I see fit. At that she screamed at me to get out of her house. She told dh she won't look after dd again and I am not welcome.
I have written her a letter ( for dh sake) to say that I felt criticised but that I was very sorry for upsetting her but she refusing to talk to me. What would you do?