If you feel deflated...

[KarmaK]

If you feel deflated, drained, anxious and/or angry after speaking to or spending time with a particular person, what does that mean? I'm meaning if you feel this way EVERY time you spend time with them.

Also, when somebody continually (every time they see you or phone you) comes out with subtle (or blatant) put down after put down - why exactly are they doing that?

becuase they are arseholes who subconsciously need to make themselves feel better and their narrow minded view of the world does this in a comparison based way

so by criticising you - this makes them 'better' than you..see?

i would cut them out of your life altogether if poss

if not, then just don't bother with them.

I have a SIL like this. in fact my in=laws are alll like this. they are jealous and so take every opportunity to find fault

This is not the right person for you to be with. You should feel happy when you are with them not mieserable.

They are putting you down to prove that they are "better" than you. They are proving this to themselves and they are not confident in themselves. In other words they have low self esteen.

Surely this is not good for you?

Surely this is not good for you?

You're right. It sickens me.

You need to ask why you choose to associate with people who drain your energy, put you down, and who don't make you feel good about yourself.

If you have little choice about working with knobs, tossers, and assorted dickheads, keep your dealings with them strictly professional and don't associate with them outside working hours.

one of the worst offenders is a "friend" I've known since 1992. At that time I think low self esteem would be a huge understatement.

Presumably the woman latched onto me at that time due to my self esteem issues. She was able to constantly put me down without it occurring to me that I didn't have to put up with such shit.

Things have changed now so time to get rid.

yes it is, Im on your other thread as well, lose this emotional baggage - politely or not so.

you do not need anyone who is leeching your emotional energy in your life