I want to fucking scream!

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Namechaneged, as people in RL know my username.

I split up with the my ex recently. We were TTC for fucking years, years! Nothing, nadda, fuck all.

He's taken up with a woman with three fucking healthy, perfect kids. I want to fucking stick my head out of the window and howl. Not fucking fair.

Sorry but I had to put this somewhere.

and I never do that.

Oh stuck not surprised you want to scream. fucking wanker. :(
Scream away.

So sorry that you are upset SFW and take care of yourself! Sounds as if you are in shock; do you have anyone in RL to whom you can confide/rant? Best wishes, must be so hard for you!

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Nope. Can't tell anyone. I have too much pride invested in not being bothered by any of this.

Just seeing something on a screen acknowledging that this is happening, helps.

It couldn't have happened overnight; he must have been seeing OW for a while! Did you not suspect? There are usually blinding clues which become apparent with hindsight!

Take care, dear girl, and I hope that you can come through this dreadful trauma!

He went from a date to meeting the kids in one week.

This is two months after we split so I technically have no reason whatsoever to get upset/rant and scream.

My gut reaction does not appreciate technicalities.

Can you really not talk to anyone? I get the pride thing, but surely your best friends won't care about that?

Or I'll put it this way, no one will believe in a million years that you are actually not bothered by this, so you might as well get some comfort from the people who care about you.

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this

Nope.

I'm the cold, hard cow who keeps the books balenced and the targets met. I get annoyed at endless baby shower nonsense and insist it's done at lunch time etc.

I would look rediculous.

I just wanted to say I really feel for you OP. Not quite the same but I married someone about 10 years ago, been together for 3 years before that, who said they wanted children. Well once married he had 101 excuses why it was never the right time to try. Most financial which was crap, he just wanted my salary and didn't want to make any sacrifices. Anyway eventually I left him and within 6 months he had a new GF with 3 kids of her own.... Fast forward they're now married!! Made me feel like shit for ages. Everyone thought I was a hard nosed ambitious career woman and it was me that did't want kids, because I could never admit I wasn't 'allowed' so know what you mean about that kind of thing.

I hope for both of our sakes that you had a happy ending.

Hopefully, AF will spot your post tomorrow/today! She's great!!!

Yes stuck now with DP who has already got 2 teenage DCs and I am expecting our own in a few months. I am getting on a bit so am delighted as I honestly never thought I would have a child. I love him for wanting a child with me especially as he's been there and done that and financially it's not going to be easy. I really hope you get your happy ending too. It was so funny when I announced my pregnancy everyone was so shocked because they thought I didn't want kids.... I just could never admit I did as I couldn't have dealt with their pity.

"It couldn't have happened overnight; he must have been seeing OW for a while! Did you not suspect?"

You're just making shit up.

What, me or blowcushion?

She just didn't read the thread.