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God i can't take anymore!

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Willow89 · 25/03/2012 23:36

Myself and OH split over a month ago, we have a young DS who we both love. I will say we are quite young and became parents unexpectedly. Makes no difference as my son is the best thing to ever happen to me.
Since we split we are still in the same house due to circumstance he is leaving next week. I have in the past few weeks he has turned so nasty on me everything from calling me a horrible person to saying our relationship meant nothing and that im controlling and sucked all the life out of him! I mean I didnt see this split coming at all he went out one weekend never came home we hada huge row and two days later he broke it off saying that he no longer loves me and that this was a long time coming! Well that was news to me i thought we were happy! When baby was born we decided i would stay at home and look after baby and go to college part time which i am doing, and he would take care of finances. So i have zero money of my own, and he is currently giving me a sum for ds and a sum for me but he throws it in my face all the time, he thinks i enjoy this but i dont its humiliating having to rely on him all the time. He has been out every single weekend since we split, no matter what, he made no effort on mothers day I am just so hurt by everything he is doinmg right now I cant take much more!! I also found out today he has started to see somebody else and its like a kick in the teeth!

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AnyFucker · 25/03/2012 23:42

I am so sorry, love, he really is showing his true colours now isn't he ?

btw, I wouldn't believe the time scale of him "just starting" to see someone else

he has been detached from you for some time, there will be a good (OW-shaped) reason for that

squeakytoy · 26/03/2012 00:08

You say you are young. Are your parents close by? or any other family. Could you stay with them for a few days until he has moved out, so that you can avoid this hostility from him.

He sounds like an immature little shit, and I strongly suspect that in a few months time, you will be damn glad to be shot of him, and you will be coping absolutely fine.

izzyizin · 26/03/2012 00:28

Let's get down to practicalities... he's leaving next week? At the time I'm writing this it's Sunday so are you talking this coming week or the week after?

When he leaves, how are you going to manage for money? If you apply for benefits there will be a delay before they kick in

Seeing somebody else or multiple elses goes with the territory of knobdom so your discovery would not be surprising to an Injun who is well-versed in following the trail of the wandering rampant stag --.

Think of the hurt you're feeling as a rite of passage; so many other women have experienced what you're feeling now and so many others are experiencing what you're feeling right this minute. And so many more have it yet to come.

You'll get through this, honey, Keep posting here and you'll find the help a and support you need to get you into a better place.

Willow89 · 26/03/2012 15:10

Yes I know this has more than likely been going on for some time all the signs are thereSad

I have family but only my grandparents and they are at a stage in their life where they don't need a baby living with them, considering they raised me aswell.

Money wise I do not know what I am going to do have started looking for a job now but childcare is going to be an issue it really is a terrible mess!

He is a different person I've never known him to be so mean and nasty!

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