Is it lack of money holding you back... ?

[CogitoErgoSometimes]

An AIBU in disguise. If you're in two minds about ending a relationship are you holding off making the final decision to leave because they're worried about money? Has financial dependence on a partner (voluntary or involuntary) proved to be a mistake? In hindsight, do you wish you hadn't given up a job or rowed all your money together?

Money or worry about money seems to be quite a common theme in a lot of the relationships threads and yet, when I mention it in other parts of MN that it's wise to have a bit of your own money and not be 100% dependent on a partner, I get told that I'm being alarmist and cynical.

Also, for some reason, DS's financial applications are all in my name only (and DS). Just a coincidence, but bloody useful.

All income pooled; household expenses into joint account; remainder split equally to individual accounts. Up to you whether to spend your 'half' on shoes or invest it.

Well said garlicbutter

I agree totally with teeny

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I second finance management being taught in schools along with basic housekeeping/gardening/budgeting surely they should all come under home economics?? When I was at school home ec taught me how to make angel delight and sew Winnie the pooh onto a cushion using pc software and a sewing machine :-/ obviously v useful!

I agree everyone should have acces to their own personal safety net. Dh and I do keep our money Seperate. And only pay enough into the joint account to cover household bills however we're both quite low paid with high outgoings so neither of us has any savings at all ATM I'm hoping to
Spend the next 5 years changing this for us both.