new fella

[ilovesprouts]

hi met a new fella hes 36 im 43 we met a few times now and fallen into bed ,we ring txt most days but hes been hurt in the past by his ex wife ,today he said he really likes me and wants to go slowly,trouble is ive really fallen for him , any advice please as im new to the dating game ive been on my own for a few years.

New relationships are intoxicating, but if you want this to last you need to get to know him before you hand over your heart on a plate. Enjoy the early stages, and please don't push him or spoil it by putting pressure on him so early on.

If you obsess over him it might scare him off - no it will scare him off. Take time to get to know him and listen carefully to what he wants too. Just because you have fallen into bed it does not mean he has made any commitment to you AT ALL. My advice..... enjoy, relax, show him the real you it it is meant to be you have nothing to worry about. Good luck.

If he wants to go slowly there's absolutely no point in you trying to put your foot on the gas and if you try to rush it, you may well find he heads for the hills.

As you hardly know this guy, recognise that what you're feeling is akin to infatuation or the novelty of finding a guy that you 'click' with.

Enjoy these feelings while they last and don't be tempted to let your heart rule your head until you truly know this guy inside and out.

Also, do bear in mind that the reasons he gives for being an ex may not be the same as those his ex would put forward to explain the end of their marriage/relationship.

BTW there's no need to because he's 36 and you're 43.

yeah i guess i need to hold back, we have talked to take things slowly so will see how we go thanks for your advice

I hope he is not about to turn 37, in which case I'd advise you to stay well clear. :)

Otherwise, give him the space he needs.

Also echo the other posters in staying nice and calm and don't get too serious too soon. Have a bit of fun with him. It's really hard I know! I was a ball of nerves when I met my OH (he's younnger too) but I managed to keep a cool exterior (mostly) and we are still together now for nearly 5 years!

Softly, softly!

things are going just fine thanks

hi just a quick update we are still very much together now ,things are going great ,he made me cry the other day he sent me a song, he rings me every day so im still happy 8weeks on :)

Aaaaaaaaah!

this is the song he sent me ive never heard of them but love the song ,had tears running down my face

Can you make that link clickable?

Ilovesprouts - that's great v happy for you! I too am in a new(ish) relationship, been together 15 weeks and both completely in love I wish you all the best!

can some one make the link as dont know how to do them

Norman 3. Clickable link OP. From that song I'd say he's a keeper. :)

oh yes deffo im so in love with him now he makes me feel all gooey

just been for a night away and a fantastic meal