I've been with my DP for nearly 9 years and although he doesn't drink like he used to, he still has 2/3 cans of beer (very strong beer) or a bottle of red wine most evenings. For somebody that doesn't drink (ie. me), that's an awful lot! He used to be quite aggressive when drunk but after an ultimatum handed to him a few years ago, he's definitely quietened down. However, when stressed (most days!) he has a drink and this leads to, the only way I can describe it, pathetic behaviour!! Coupled with the fact that we don't have much in common, we never go out, he always makes digging comments about my son and he can't communicate with his ex about their daughter which means we can never plan anything, I've come to the end of my tether. I can't do this any more. So this week I finally plucked up the courage to tell him that I'm done with talking, I want out and want to sell the house. He's now told me that he needs help and he knows he can't do this alone but that he's not "one of those" that can sit in a circle and admit his name and that he's an alcoholic. So apart from these group sessions, does anybody have any ideas as to where to start looking for help? I know that the counsellors/advisers that our GP recommends are not very good (friends have told me). I think he's going to need somebody pretty strong and "on the ball" to deal with him. Any ideas/info greatly appreciated.