So … he came in shouting and bawling at Parents’ night

[LiarsWife]

STBXH arrived just behind me at parents night .. I just kept walking as nothing to say to him. As soon as we arrived into the corridor at school where you wait to see the teacher he started shouting at me asking where DD7 was???

As the appointment was at 7:50 (bedtime) and always runs late and DD has never been taken to parents? night before I am not sure why he assumed she would be there this time? She was with my mum and staying overnight as mum takes her to school in the morning.

He then (still shouting)said that I was obstructing him seeing his daughter!!! Which I have never done. He flung a lot of insults around ? muttering things like ?arsehole? under his breath..

I had left the phone that I use for him to call DD with my mum so that he could get in touch with his daughter but he said because she had Rainbows then he couldn?t call (this finished an hour before the parents? appointment) .. What he really means is he didn?t bother as he wrongly assumed that she would be at parents? night ..

All my fault again apparently I should have let him know that DD had the phone!!! (Why didn?t he ask me if she was going to be there?)

Anyone know a hitman who can make it look like an accident?? I can?t believe I?m going to have to tolerate this tosser for the next 9 years at minimum

Really just wanting a rant ...

Hes just behaving like a nob for all to see.

You were absolutely right and responsible and behaved in the right way - keep records of all this as Im sure hes just digging a hole for himself....did the teachers see?

hope parents evening went well for your dd.

DD is a 'joy to have in the class' according to her teachers - polite, enthusuastic, helpful and doing really well [proud]

The only down side was that the teacher said that DD has been prone to tears over small things that previously wouldn't have bothered her the last couple of months - I could feel myself welling up as she puts on such a brave face at home :(

Of course PRCK didn't bat an eyelid as he doesn't see that his actions have caused this

The teacher may have heard what was happening in the corridor - I'm not sure - but the other parents waiting certainly did!!!

Twat of the year. Praise be for your lucky escape!

Hugs.

I assume you didn't stoop to his level. :)

Breath in and breath out. Repeat several times. Stupid men.

Hello LiarsWife. I have followed only some of your postings and am admiring your strength. Hope I am not butting in, but wondered whether it would not be a good idea to get a record of this incident in the form of and email or even of a solicitor's letter.

Hi Lueji I didn't stoop at all :)

I spoke clearly (and quietly) and told him that DD had the phone - if he'd texted me to speak to her then I would have told him to call her on that phone or if he'd just phoned it he would have got her .. and that was his problem that he's made a wrong assumption that she'd be at the school.

I also tried to move away from him a couple of times but he kept following me around.

Hi Arth this is my record :)

That's a good idea. MN as a diary. :o

If you want you could drop the teacher an email or note, explaining (again?) why your DD may be a bit tearful, and just saying something like "as you may have gathered from what happened in the corridor before seeing you".
I hope you are also keeping a diary of when he behaves like this or other problems you have with him.

Well done on keeping your dignity.

Nice of him to confirm yet again why he is an ex!

None of his accusations are valid, you know that, so don't let them rile you.

How bloody embarrassing Glad you didn't stoop. Poor dd though.

Are there witnesses to this. I'd make a note of everything he does.

Tbh I can imagine my husband doing that.

I waled out a few years ago and he turned up at my sons nursery. He just barged in through the back door looking for us.

Oh wow, just goes to show why is is soon to be an ex. Glad you rose above it all.

I would refuse to attend any further parents evenings with the knob him. Our school is happy to accommodate separated parents by offering different appointment times, maybe this is something your school could do too?

I kicked him out asked him to leave on New Years Eve after the proof of the affair was found so when the school went back after the holidays I gave DD a letter for the teacher so the school is aware of the situation.

I have a diary as well so I'll put the details of last night in (as with any diary I've ever had started off well but then the entries have dwindled)

Next parents' evening will not be until October so I think I will ask for a separate slot then

I went a bit further than that. I asked for copies of important letters and reports to be sent to my ex too. School were only too happy to oblige and it kinda knocked him off his pedestal a bit. The less contact you have with him the better!

Yes I agree with TFMADD. Get them to send duplicates of everything.

Cheeky fucker, he should be ashamed and scuttling around not showing you up!

Curiousmama he showed himself up...not me!! :)

Good :)