should i be thinking of ending this or am i over reacting

[Sazbrilla]

my dp has a thing at the minute about talking to his ex about our relationship problems. she doesnt know a thing about me and thinks he is the best thing since sliced bread. he only tells her half the story n the half he tells her makes me look like a complete bitch. dont get me wrong i understand that he might need someone to talk to but does it have to be his ex? does it habe to be women full stop when he has a mate that he keeps talking to anyway. he flirts with women all the time. i asked him politely back along to stop talking to his ex about us and he carrys on. i dont think im being unreasonable by asking this small thing. but maybe i am. any advice would be appreciated.

How long have you been together? How long since he and his ex split up? If she is his ex, why does she 'think he is the best thing since sliced bread'?

Sounds like he prefers her to you.

Sorry.

Oh dear...flirting all the time sounds horrible to live with, for you

What do you feel about splitting up? I mean tbh I think I would be considering it quite seriously based on the little I know about your DP, but there might be other factors keeping you in it.

Tell us more?

we have been together over a year now but seeing each other a lot longer than that. they split up years ago but it ended on good terms and they have been good friends since. he has always been there for her so she thinks he is great. he would rather talk to others than me almost all the time. i find it hard to talk to him. when we first got together, we always used to talk to each other about everything but now he would rather talk to others. we had a bit of an argument about 3 hours ago n he still wont talk to me. there are 3 people he would rather talk to than me. i am one of these people that thinks if you have a problem with your partner you should talk to them about it not talk about it behind their backs. is that a stupid way to think?

I would end it op. It sounds far too stressful and he sounds like a bit of a twat. Who the hell does he think he is having his ex hanging onto his evry word. he is playing you both; her and you. She clearly still has feelings and he knows this. Bin the idiot; it's really not worth it.

And him not talking to you is called stone walling. It's abusive and horrid.

No, not at all!

My DP is a bit of a flirt, however, if I am there and he can see I'm getting annoyed by it he will back off but I do accept he is a flirt and I am not going to try and change him, I think that is a personal choice!

When me and DP first got together he told his ex a lot of things and it really bugged the crap out of me, I gave him a stark choice (and I am not saying you should do this) either stop, or get out of my life.

I'm not suggesting something as drastic as my actions are going to work, however, it is something to bear in mind

i accept that he is a flirt but when he sees im getting annoyed by it nothing changes. he doesnt back off he just gets funny with me. i dont mind him talking about it it just annoys me that he makes me out to be the bad guy all the time while making himself look like an angel. he gets really defensive when i ask him about it n refuses to discus it or even consider how it makes me feel. we have been through a lot in the year we have been together. i got pregnant (not planned) and we were both worried but excited. then i had a mc so i understand that he needs to talk to someone but does it really have to be his ex. i mean he has had a couple of relationships since then and used to talk to me about them before we got together but now he would rather talk to her about our problems than talk to me about it.

I would bin him mate. The stonewalling would drive me mad - plus I couldn't put up with the flirting, I'm too jealous

Sorry x

jealousy is a bit of a problem for me too but i dont show it x

i wouldnt like that at all.

i dont really but i dont want to give him more reason to go running back to her to make me out to be a bitch but its getting a bit too much for me now.

I wouldn't give a stuff who this twat ran to or what he said about me.

Do yourself a favour, honey - ditch this tosser and look to fnd a guy who's an adult.