My cousin is 5 years younger than me and lives in France. She is godmother to both my children. I feel like I'm making all the effort to get together and to see her so the children can have some kind of relationship with her. We had a really big argument about 5 years ago about this where we didn't talk for about 6 months and things improved after that.
I've not been hassling her, but just sent an email saying did she want meet up either in France, my house or london( in the middle) sometime. She always goes on about how its too far to come to our house ( though of course its exactly the same distance for us to visit her, and more expensive as there are more of us). She can't be bothered to take any time off to make a long weekend to make the travel easily, yet is happy to do so to go to stuff with her friends.
She replied that she didn't have a free weekend until at least the end of August. I replied not to worry then and that she should let us know when she has some time available.
Should I just throw in the towel and not bother any more? I'm guessing that maybe she's just not that in to me or my kids. I'd feel guilty doing this as it would mean that my kids would miss out on a relationship with her. When we do see her, she is kind, friendly and really good with the kids.