Things haven't been great between me and DH for a while...

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but I just got an image of him with grandchildren climbing over him and I want to be there to see it

That means we still have something worth having doesn't it? Our Dc are only 8 & 10 and of course there are no guarantees, but I really want to grow old with DH, even though we don't talk or have sex as much as I'd like.

Sounds like one worth fighting for :)

Time for "both" of you to roll up your sleeves and do a bit of work OP

Seriously though, you need to sit down with him and see where to go from here don't you.

Things can turn around if the two of you put the same amount of effort in.

Good luck

That's a very idealised image you have there.

Why are there these problems with communication and intimacy within your marriage and just as importantly, what is being done by both of you to address these?. Both of you have to take some responsibility here for your marriage.

What do you get out of this relationship now?.

Your children are learning about relationships from the two of you; what do you want to teach them about relationships?.

yes a keeper, have you spoken to him about it all?

Have you had time for just the two of you without the kids?

I had a few misgivings about my DH when we first got together and was tempted to call it quits......but then I thought what I'd actually feel like without him and I couldnt' bear the thought.

We sat down - well I actually drove off with the dog and he had to come and find me - talked it all through and it's the best thing we did, it cleared the air and we'v never looked back.

Good luck x

I dont think thats an idealised image, i think its lovely and a good indicator that the marriage is strong. You have busy lives im sure, sometimes life just gets in the way of romance etc, tell him how you feel, he may feel the same, then arrange something nice to address the issue.