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Advice on debt in joint name and who should have money from house

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luckybun · 21/03/2012 10:04

HI - right, just wondered if anybody has any advice for me. My husband and I are separating, he is moving out while house is sold. House is in joint name but about 2 yrs ago his father paid off lump sum of mortgage, actually all of mortgage. At the time it was a gift but I have now been told that he did this in good faith that we would stay married..... ! He now wants his money when the house sells. Where do I stand??

On another note and actually far more serious in my eyes is that when we initially bought the house we got a loan out on top of mortgage for £28k for works to the house unsecured in both our names - I thought that H was paying this off, but it now appears that this is in serious arrears of £9k - ie we now owe £37K on this loan!!! He has been in touch with the loan company all along and so we have no ccjs etc just a vvvvv bad debt which I knew nothing about! I am furious with myself for not opening the mail from them but I honestly believed that H was looking after that and he certainly never let on to me that he hadn't been able to keep up with the payments. My concern now is that when we sell how on earth am I going to be able to rent something for myself and my DD if my credit rating has been shot to pieces by my STUPID ex?????

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luckybun · 21/03/2012 15:35

Thankfully we do t have anything else in joint names!

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ameliagrey · 21/03/2012 15:38

Look at it another way- if that money from his father had been used to buy a diamond ring or a world cruise, what would he have done then? make you sell the ring and "take back" the holiday somehow?

If you give money as a gift then that is it- a gift. if his father put limitations on it's use or wanted repayment that should have been made legal at the time. tell him to piss off.

peugotgringo · 21/03/2012 15:45

I've just asked the question at work (accountants Blush) - re the FIL paying off your mortgage

Unless he's actually got you to sign something then it's legally yours and if he wants it back he'll have to sue you for it! In fact the words used were tell him to fuck him off the twat!

However I still think legal advise is required pronto

luckybun · 21/03/2012 15:49

Ameliagrey - I agree!

Funnily enough I also learned the other day that the £28k house loan did actually pay for my engagement ring! I thought he'd saved to afford it :(

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luckybun · 21/03/2012 15:52

PG hilarious that you are an accountant!!! Sorry Blush no offense intended! And thank u for asking at work

I actually cancelled a solicitors apt on Monday as I thought we could do this without - rebook that I think!

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peugotgringo · 21/03/2012 16:00

no offence taken Grin

people · 21/03/2012 16:01

Shock you have a £28k engagement ring? That's how you repay the loan then Grin I hope you get some proper advice.

luckybun · 21/03/2012 16:06

People - sadly no! not at all!!!

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izzyizin · 21/03/2012 16:07

Feel free to print off my words and use them any time you want, honey.

FWIW, I wouldn't want your -shortsightend-- fil handling my dosh and I echo PG's sentiments.

It shouldn't take much to sort out the loan company but please don't attend any mediation process before you've sought legal advice.

izzyizin · 21/03/2012 16:11

FTR shortsightend is a Freudian slip on my part an abbreviation of shortsightedbellend Grin

luckybun · 21/03/2012 16:14

lol! he is short, so correct!

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