Strained friendship - help

[shotinfoot]

I feel like I'm drifting away from my best friend and I'm not sure what to do, if anything.

Bit of background, I have 3 children, they have been trying for a baby for a long long time. Several rounds of IVF, miscarriages, complications etc.

I really feel for them but it has become all consuming for them. Whenever I try to arrange to see her, she can't because they are 'concentrating on their treatment'.

She doesn't really have any interest in my children and I don't really blame her I suppose. I can understand she doesn't want to hang out with my kids all the time but even when I try to arrange something for just the two of us she either needs an early night, has pregnancy yoga etc.

I don't really feel that I can be supportive as I have no idea what she is going through and I think there is some resentment for that.

What do I do? Do I just let it slide and hope that one day she'll come back? I can hardly force myself on her!

Based on what you've described I'd say let it slide.

hmm, I was afraid you'd say that

So what do I do? Keep asking or just quietly withdraw?

I don't think you need to be struggling with ttc in order to be supportive, just be understanding and flexible, at the moment this is her life, why not offer to go to yoga with her, or something that she is doing centre around this?

Be honest with her, say to her you will not ask her to go on nights out etc as you know she needs to focus on this, but that you are there for when she needs you.

She's being selfish, bit imagine how hard you would fight to have your children.

You sound like a really nice person btw

Thank you, that's good to know