I'm a long term lurker and could really do with some advice because I'm frightened to death I'm going to lose my fiancée. I don't expect sympathy, not why I'm here. I know this whole thing is my fault but I desperately want to put it right.
He found out 2 weeks ago that I slept with someone else on new years eve. I had wanted to tell him ever since, there was nothing going on before and nothing since but I have been blackmailed by the guy since and I've just been in a world of my own wondering what to do. We started arguining (dp and I) and he asked me outright if I'd "fucked" someone else so I think other guy must have told him. I said I had and he hit me and started screaming and shouting at me and then left saying he was scared he would kill me if he stayed.
He came back early hours of the morning and we didn't speak until the next day and he saw the mark on my face and he cried and said he was sorry and he'd never meant to hit me and he was obsessing over it all day. I told him about the blackmailing and why I'd slept with him in the first place and basically we just stopped talking about it and carried on as if nothing had happened.
But its not the same, we have not slept together since, he wont come near me and all talk of marriage has stopped. He is so distant and I've tried to bring it up and ask him what he wants me to do and he says he doesn't want to talk about it.
Do I force the issue or will that drive him away even more? I need to save this/