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I'm annoyed at partner

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hattieboo2012 · 18/03/2012 21:13

i roughly know where my dps ex lives. I know the road. They have no kids togehter, didn't live
Together, they were dating for
2 years. We went past his ex's house tonight, and he stared right in the house as we went past tonight. I mean a right proper nosy in. He doesn't know I know where she lives. I've never seen er before but seen a document with her address on. It really pissed me off!

OP posts:
items · 18/03/2012 21:15

He has a past. He was intrigued. Its natural. Are you saying if you were passing your ex, you wouldn't peer in? I know I would.

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hattieboo2012 · 18/03/2012 21:24

Yea I would have a little look but not look right in and make it so obvious. He's just really pissing me off lately with loads of things.

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Goawaybob · 18/03/2012 21:26

If he is pissing you off for loads of things and its not a long term relationship, well..............

items · 18/03/2012 21:36

Yeah think you answered your own thoughts --- i don't think the look in is really the issue, seems its a piece of a number of things pissing you off. Time to get it all off your chest and if you get through it, strong relationship, if not it was the right outcome.

SparkyMcSparrow · 18/03/2012 21:39

I would have a good nosey through my ex's window if I could. Doesn't mean a thing.

I think you have deeper issues than this, if hes "pissing you off lately with loads of things"

TooEasilyTempted · 18/03/2012 21:43

Is this the same ex whose child is not his but he's on the birth certificate?

feelssostrong · 18/03/2012 21:44

Same one too - and another post about wanting his baby earlier this week......mmmmmmm Hmm

hathorinareddress · 18/03/2012 21:44

You seem to have a lot of issues with your partner. Yet you are thinking of having a baby with him?

I'd think again if I were you.

Kayzr · 18/03/2012 21:56

I look into houses I have lived in with XH when I have been with DP. I am nosey and want to know what the decorating it like. It isn't a crime.

When are you going to wake up to this shambles of a relationship?

There is the birth certificate fiasco and you haven't seemed bothered about working out what is going on there.

The you want to have a baby with him.

I might get reported and deleted for this but if you have a baby with him then you are stupid.

maras2 · 18/03/2012 22:29

Which bit of 'It's his kid, leave the bastard' do you not understand?You must be all threaded out.Step away from the internet and have a word with yourself,please,for your own sake.

squeakytoy · 18/03/2012 22:32

You are seriously pissed off about something so trivial? You really do sound as if you are about 15, and that includes your past posts too.

So what if he looked at the house.

I had a good nosey at my ex's house last year when we drove past it.. and we split up 20 years ago... so what? he didnt knock on the door and ask for a cup of tea, so why on earth are you bothered about it..??

PooPooInMyToes · 18/03/2012 23:05

Its curiosity, its natural. Perhaps he wanted to catch a glimpse of the child? He was in the child's life for quite a while, they must have developed an attachment.

izzyizin · 19/03/2012 00:43

I take it this is the same dp whose ex allegedly put his name on their her dc's birth cert without telling him?

And the very same dp you refer to here?: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1429234-how-do-I-tell-DP-Im-ready-for-a-baby

If I were driving near an ex's house with a current dp, I'd say 'btw, we're just about to drive past my ex's home - that's the house, over there' so that we could both crane our necks and have a nosey if we felt so inclined.

The fact that he didn't do so would suggest that he doesn't want you to know where she lives. I wonder why?

PooPooInMyToes · 19/03/2012 08:25

Or it could just be that he doesn't think its an issue.

Seeing as she has done something as shocking and illegal though you would think he would mention it. If it were me and someone had put my name on a legal document, something which is illegal and deceitful, it would be at the forefront of my mind. Id be talking about it.

You haven't said what's happened regarding the birth certificate or if you have discussed it further with him. Perhaps he gave you a full explanation? Be aware . . . if he is innocent and has been hugely deceived he will be open about it. If he's defensive and gets angry when you ask about it further. . . Sad

ohdearwhatdoidonow · 19/03/2012 09:20

My 1st serious boyfriend, from when I was 17 - 24 (am 40 odd now), lives near me, as do his parents. I ended things, never looked back, but I have to drive past both their houses every night. I always have a look see what's going on. I'm just being nosy.

Ask him about it, but I wouldn't worry.

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