For all the Children that can't say "Happy Mother's Day"

[FeckArse]

Mum you beat me black and blue. You didn't beat my younger siblings; they got a proper Mum.
I'm sorry for myself and today grieving the mum that I never had.
A few years ago I would have said "rot in hell". Years have gone bye and I feel sorry for you.
It takes a lot for me to wish you well; and I have no contact with you now.
But I do wish you well.

Hope you're okay.

I'm drunk but I'm OK. But now I'm crying.
I think uhk is entirely normal.

So sorry FA. Be kind to yourself xxxx

Sorry FeckArse.x

:(

Be kind to yourself today x

Awww feckarse. Dud you ever find out what the knitted things are (i lost the tgread)?

Yes Norma thank you. They're some sort of kitchen thing.

Mum.
The only thing I remember about you is the beatings.
Every day I'd walk up to the nursery that you started, and all the mums would be saying how wonderful you were.
And all the time I would know you were a despicable horrible witch.
You appeared so perfect and nice; but you were a horrid nasty person.

So sorry FeckArse. Hang in there, be kind to yourself.

My fucking witch of a "mother" died last year. This is the first Mothers Day I don't need to worry about her and her expectations, for she too required us to worship her and perpetuate her self delusion that she was the perfect mother. It's bloody liberating.

FeckArse, your initial post really hit home for me, I could have written it too, apart from wishing well part. I'm not there yet but hopefully I'll be where you are one day. Well done for moving on with your life, have a glass on me!

Aw lovely. So sad. I feel for you.

So sorry

It's like mourning the mother you should have had isn't it.

Be kind to yourself today. Only do things that will cheer you up.

We're feeling shit today;
I've written the letter that she will never receive.
Because I'm not cruel.

Thesockpuppet. Hang on in there.
You'll get there eventually.
It is mourning the Mother that you should have had. Norman/ Lucky.
It really hit me when I first had my own child. I simply could not understand it.
And I don't think I ever will.

Well. My "mother" won't have had any mother's day cards, or anything at all.

I on the other hand, have been spoilt rotten today, starting with a sprinkling of cut out paper love hearts from my 7 yr old dd at seven this morning. She had spent ages cutting them out and putting them in an envelope she'd made, tied up with a ribbon...all on her own. She came into my room and sprinkled them over me and telling me how wonderful I was and how much she loves me.

It isn't revenge...it's something far more peaceful, and a knowledge that I broke the chain which is the most amazing feeling in the world...ever.

My "mother" will never know that feeling.

So sorry all of you My friend had a terrible drunken abusive mother too.On mothers day she spends ages picking out the most ridiculously ott innappropriate card ever made. Mum you are my best friend i dont know how id have manged without you type of thing It makes her feel better and her Mum has to read it knowing she is being sarcastic. She used to have a fray bentos pie between 7 of them for tea

Breaking the chain is the BEST feeling, that it stops here!

My mother wasn't physically abusive but emotionally, oh yes! She eventually left (with her OM, who was my Dads best friend) on the Monday after Mothers Day.

Tactful, mother!

I no longer have contact and I'm glad of it. I had a fabulous Mothers Day and I deserved it. She didn't.

I took my mother cards from us and the children and presents around this morning. She ignored the doorbell. When I knocked hard on the door we heard the radio come on to drown out the noise. I phoned the house phone from the door step, but it went to answerphone.

It is possible that she was out, but how does that explain the radio coming on with a loud volume after the 2nd or so knocks?

I wonder why those of us with mother's like this bother? It is sad though isn't it?

Sad to read this, hope you have caring, good people around you now.

Wonderful husband and adult kids - so yes, good people. I hope other posters have the same.