I really need advice, I want a baby but not sure if DP does.

[TheSockPuppet]

I've been with DP for 3.5 years, but have been close friends for years before getting together. I have a lovely DS from a previous relationship, he is 5. DP also has a DD from a previous relationship, 5.5, but doesn't get to see her (but that is a whole other thread!).

We talked about ttc, and we would both like to have another child. I would like to try for one now and DP said he would quite like the idea of having another child now too, so we decided to start ttc. I've been quite excited about it all but have noticed that DP hasn't been so excited, I brought this up last night and he said he 'doesn't not want a baby', but just 'isn't as enamoured with the idea as me', although he still wants to ttc as he would like another child.

I'm really confused, he says he would like to start ttc now but isn't as excited as me, am I wanting too much by wanting him to be excited when I'm not even pregnant yet?

Just not to drip feed, I had a miscarriage about 6 months ago (at 11 weeks), the pregnancy was unplanned and we didn't find out I was pregnant until I had miscarried and went to the doctor, but he was devastated.

i think its common for one person to be more excited about the idea than the other, but that doesnt mean he doesnt want one.
I think you may be worrying unnecessarily x

*Disclaimer, I'm not a troll, just namechanged, I'd make a big list about pombears, greggs sausage rolls, fruitshoots and poo trolls but I think that would be pointless as a troll could just lurk for a whlile reading the mumsnet classics before posting!

Thanks Dinah, that's what I maybe thought, but then started really doubting myself.

Oh gosh, I feel really daft now, I just talked to DP and told him my worries, and how I wasn't sure if he really did want a child...turns out he does, just not right now, but in a few months instead as he hinted at proposing in that time!