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How the fuck can you sit back and have four kids be abused under your nose and claim not to realise ? Seriously, how the fuck can you ?

28 replies

Noogle · 14/03/2012 23:48

I've namechanged for this because well........I am baffled.

I grew up knowing from a young age my 'dad' had abused young boys, I later found out he'd also abused my elder brother and sister ( his step children )

He was prosecuted for abusing a boy when she was pregnant with me, she stood by him in the fucking court, what the hell must she have looked like ? Stood there about to drop, SUPPORTING an abuser of children.

When he was in the bail hostel she made my brother and sister visit.

He came back to the house when he was released, when my mother was in hospital with me because I was ill he was at home having a fucking field day with her kids.

She caught him in her sons bed for bastards sake, how the actual fuck can she not have realised ? What is the fucking POINT in even denying any knowledge ?

She eventually got rid of him, at least she took some responsibility

Then we get to me, I was abused by two seperate men, grubby old man down the road who used to cop a feel when I was 4 or 5 ish ( why was I allowed into his house ? Had she not learnt the first time ? ) And again when I was 6 ish. This was my sisters friends grandad, we used to sleep over at his house and go on days out. She actually didn't like us going there, why didn't she put her foot down ?

What had happened to me that I was willing to put up with a grubby old man doing things that I KNEW were wrong because he gave me treats ? Why ? I used to lock the door FFS. Had something happened way back that labelled me victim ?

Oh and tonight, fun and fucking games. Tonight I found out my other sister had also been abused, by the foster son of the next man my mother got with. She has had a complete mental breakdown, her kids are now being cared for elsewhere because she cannot do it.

Why the fucking hell as this happened ? Did we deserve the abuse we got because we're the product of an abuser ?

I feel so fucking dirty I wish I could scrub my skin off, I just want to disappear, I cannot get my head around any of this at all.

OP posts:
Abitwobblynow · 16/03/2012 08:45

Regarding sexual abuse: psychopaths are alive and well and living near you.

'Where you find child sexual abuse, look for the psychopath' - Martha Stout.

This is not too well understood by the justice system, but it does explain why paedophiles are 'so hard to treat'.

As far as I am concerned, when discovered they should be beaten very close to death, by the community. Who know absolutely nothing, when the police come to call!

dottyspotty2 · 18/03/2012 20:14

I'm so sorry you went through this no child should be abused ever, I am currently waiting to see if I will be going to court for historic abuse by my so called brother he raped me from about 4-12 possibly younger.

My mum doesn't want to know says she was never told utter bollocks, as far as she's concerned she wont make her mind up unless something happens to him but she has him in her house all the time I haven't heard from her since about November. As far as I'm concerned she might as well be dead its to late now.

My older sisters where also abused by him no matter what we wont get full justice for what that bastard did, disclosing it has totally changed me. The last few months have been hell first time I ever went into any details with anyone was in October in my police interview.

I know a lot of people say these people are sick but I don't agree
whatsoever.

And no none of you deserved it I went willingly as well but do yourself a favour get some counselling for it before it destroys you. xx

bonnieslilsister · 18/03/2012 20:49

Is your dad still alive so you can get him put away? I am so sorry for you all. Xxx

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