Along with all the other crap I'm dealing with....

[Lemonylemon]

.... I was raped when I was 19. By my then boyfriend. He was drunk and didn't remember. I told my family who didn't believe me. My brother is still friends with him.

That is all.

did you just have to get it out and tell someone or do you need some help?

I'm really sorry x

I was prompted by reading about the MN campaign and just needed to get it out......

I've got a lot of stuff I'm dealing with at the moment and i just bubbled up.

Thank you x

Sorry to hear that happened to you. It shouldn't have happened. I know what it's like for people to dismiss your feelings, it's just horrible. Keep talking if it helps.

You ok Lemony?

Oh yes, I'm OK, thank you. I'll go away and process this and then come back and post a bit more tomorrow. It happened a very long time ago, but I think that not being believed by my family has always rankled, together with the incident itself being minimised by the people we were with at the time. It happened on a camping trip.

(((hugs)))

I know the MN campaign has triggered that same reaction from a lot of MN regulars - you are not alone, and you did not cause or deserve it. As for your family's reaction, it was shit, and entirely down to their own fucked-upedness. Nothing to do with whether you deserved to be believed or not.

Wishing you a complete recovery from the emotional trauma.

He probably does remember and is lying about it.

I'm sorry he did that and I'm sorry that your family betrayed you too.

Oh darling i am so sorry.
that is so shitty in so many different ways. you poor thing.

I am sorry this happened to you Lemony

So sorry Lemony. How terrible that you weren't believed. This on top of loads of other crap? There's plenty of good people here. And they'll be here when you're ready to talk.

I'm sorry this happened to you x

((((hugs)))) Lemony

Sorry to hear that Lemony. x

the not being believed adds insult to the injury. especially when it is people who should be on your side. sorry you had to go through that .

Thank you all. I really appreciate your words. It's a relief to get it out there and to try to make sense of it now.

The other crap I'm dealing with is my very self-absorbed mum and her being in hospital for the third time in 8 months and my finally realising that I really musn't minimise things anymore. I've on the Stately Homes thread to work through other stuff to do with my childhood....

Some good people on there. This is painful now but you'll come out of this calmer and stronger. You brave lady!