My mum and dad split when I was about five, I don't know what happened, she says he made her life hell getting them into debt, he says she ran off with someone else (she did).
He never shouted at me or hit me.
My dad found someone else, took on her child and adopted her, they then went on to have a baby.
Since i've been an adult my dad has remembered my birthday and christmas. I've seen him twice a year for god knows how long. He hardly notices that he has grandchildren.
When he was having an affair a few years back he told his wife he was coming to see me, so if I did ring him I got an instant bollocking from my stepmum saying that he came to see me so often yet I couldn't be bothered to call him. I said nothing.
Now he has a credit card bill directed to my house. He doesn't want his wife to know about his credit card. He collects it once a month.
Every Christmas I see his "daughters" pics on fb, heaps of gifts...i'm not material but it hurts like hell. They are both adults now, when I turned 16 he nagged at me to send them something which I did for years and continue to do but now they can't even be arsed to say happy birthday to me on fb. Neither of them have ever sent me a card for any occasion let alone anything else. They are 23 and 29.
He's my dad and I love him but i'm totally fed up with it.