What gives people the idea they can talk down to you ...

[KarmaK]

or that they can treat you like shit?

Well, there's an old saying, people will treat you how you teach them to treat you.
You call them on it the very first time they attempt to do it.

Arrogance? Ignorance? Does this happen to you lot?

and if they apologize but then try the same crap again, you ditch them?

shitty people try to treat every person they meet like shit. they test the boundary with everyone. and they hang on to the ones who take it, or don't hit back immediately.

that's all there is to it, really.

No one does this to me.

I give off a scary vibe according to DD.

Judging from the threads you posted over the weekend, you seem to have some difficulty in judging what is and what isn't acceptable behaviour in others, Karmak.

Who's been talking down to you and/or treating you like shit? Is is the loser man you recently dated?

They're playing at status transactions. They're an intrinsic part of human interaction, some people just go for broke.

This is a fascinating look at it, based on theatre.

www.rehearsalsforgrowth.com/reviews1.html

Apologies are pretty empty if someone doesn't change their behaviour. Means they have no respect for you and no integrity. Both are ditching offences.

Well, I guess you keep calling them on it until either they stop, or you find your self-respect, realise it's not worth the hassle and ditch them.

Bugger, link got me.

www.rehearsalsforgrowth.com/improv1.html

^ agree that it's really about status transactions people are constantly testing/reading each other to see where they fit into the pecking order.

if you give off the vibe that you're ok with being stamped on, then you'll probably be stamped on more often. if you go around looking scary and not bothered by anyone, you are probably not going to be stamped on nearly as often.

Izzy, I've fairly recently begun therapy. It's very helpful although in a sense it's depressing because it's becoming clearer and clearer to me just how much ludicrously bad treatment I've been putting up with for years, from men, from some friends and from family. Some of it is so bad it's almost comical. I guess at least it's a start that I'm now aware of it. It actually is making me cringe to look back on how I've been letting people speak to me and treat me.

this article is absolutely fascinating