Ive posted numerous times about her, shes lovely and does everything (i think) out of the goodness of her heart. But... on telling her i was 3 months pregnant at christmas, her first response was to say... "so what are you doing for xmas dinner, oh i dont care im getting a baby".
For some reason the way she said it stuck with me, then a month later she kindly offered to buy the cot for us and immediately wanted to go and get one she had picked for us. I didnt accept this pregnancy very well in the beginning and my dp had to tell her to back off a bit, my own mum understood completely and let me take things at my own pace, but MIL wouldn't have this and continued to phone me constantly wanting to do this and that when all i wanted was to be alone.
The really annoying thing came a few weeks ago when me and dp went round to visit her, she has decorated her eldest daughters room into a nursery, which i found strange. (daughter is only at uni and will prob be back at some point) then last week i went round and she has placed in it a moses basket and a car seat, i stupidly said oh that's nice of you but ive already bought a moses basket and car seat comes with the pram, she laughed and said ha ha dont be soft they're for when i have the baby. they don't even have a car! she also has a baby walker, bath seat, and a car seat from age 5 upwards which she had all bought 2nd hand from a neighbour.
I found this really disturbing to be honest,maybe being over sensitive but i feel like im expected to give birth and hand over the baby to her, what i havent mentioned is that shes a very heavy smoker and an alcoholic she gets through easily 2 bottles of cider a night and always has a bottle of whisky in, i actually wouldn't dream of leaving a baby with her overnight, i couldnt trust her to not drink once the baby had gone to sleep .She told me at xmas she would have the baby 1 day a week, i said thanks but no thanks i couldnt let you do that, im planning on breastfeeding so i know she wont just take it away from me, its the fact she thinks that she can that gets to me, so sorry this is really long i just dont know what to do, i dont like going to see visit her right now, i told my dp last week how i felt and he said he would have a word as he had noticed it too but just thought it was excitment on her part, maybe it is but i see it more as shes the last one in her family to be a grandparent and wants to join in with everything they do, the thing is though all the others dont drink, she once told me when dp was born at about 2 months he stopped breathing in his cot, her response was to leave him and run to a neighbour's house as she was still drunk, then sent in the neighbour, i just couldnt trust her right now, she wont stop drinking shes been like this since she was 15 and drunk through all 3 pregnancies. i just dont know what to do with her, let alone say to her, shes just changed my opinion of her since i got pregnant all she wants to do is baby stuff and if i say no im not ready yet or well do it another time she goes and does it anyway. i dont want to fall out with her though, should i say something or just let dp have a word, i dont think anything we said would actually be taken in though...