Don't know if I'm actually capable of casual relationship....

[JazzyButtons]

met a guy about a month ago, who I knew vaguely before, but a month ago about a week after I split up with my ex of 4 years, started a 'very casual regular sex' arrangement, for no better way of putting it.

Its going fine, but I think I'm driving myself crazy by trying to read into everything. He doesnt know this, im trying to appear normal, but dont know if it is actually building to something more or am I imagining it and am going to send him running for the hills.

We meet up about 3 times a week, text most days, and when we do meet up although its just going round to my place or his, so not 'dates' or anything, its nice. like lying in bed talking most of the night and then falling asleep holding hands sort of thing. Have talked about past relationships, his daughter, and other sort of 'big' conversations, but not going anywhere after the conversations, but if it was just casual these things would be irrelevant so why is he asking?

for example last night after sex i was lying in his arms, and he says 'I never used to be a snuggly person, its scaring me' I then made a joke about did he want me to stop, and he said yeah so I moved over, but it was him that had initiated the snuggle in the first place.

Am I reading too much into this? Never done casual before...

How did you meet this person? Who is he? It doesn't sound like you want it to be just casual?

If he rolls up to your place or invites you round to his to shag, it seems that you aren't much more than a convenience to him and, yes, you're reading far too much into it far too early as you've only known him a few weeks.

I reckon you should get out more - with or without him.

We met because I work in a bar and he works in the bar around the corner.

Casual was the relationship we both set out as what we both wanted, and it is jut my place or his, but we've started arranging nights in like a week in advance which is new rather than just 'wanna come over tonight?'

Why don't you arrange a few nights that don't involve sex (maybe a meal, DVD or cinema)and see if he's still interested in keeping 'casual' contact. At least then you'll know where you stand.

Back off a bit - don't arrange nights in a week in advance because you don't know what you might doing that far ahead and suggest nights out now and again.

I think im going to back off contact for a bit, think I'm slightly rebounding so need a few drunken girly nights out, see if he does a bit of chasing.

They get mighty complacent if they don't have the thrill of the chase to excite them and, despite having a bird by in the bush, they'll still be looking to get their dick hand in with another one - or two if it involves a pursuit.

He wants casual? Show him just how offhand casual you can be, honey.

He texted me drunk on Saturday night, didn't suggest anything but was obvious why he was texting. I told him I was going to sleep and that I would be in touch in the morning. I didn't , then he did at about 1pm ish asking how my day was.

Playing cool seems to work!