Humpy, please tell your DH that this is totally normal and will not last forever (or even very long).
Until my son was 16mo, he would tolerate his dad during the day if I wasn't around. At night, he would literally vomit in anger if his dad tried to settle him rather than me.
My DH always adored DS, no matter how he was treated. And while DS would give him smiles and so on, his real love was reserved for me. I used to sometimes feel a bit bad for DH that he was such an amazing dad and DS really had such a preference for me.
But you know what, that's normal. That's because babies are carried for 9 months by their mums, their mums tend to have maternity leave so spend most time with them and (in my case) breastfed till 16 months, so it's only natural under those circumstances that your mum is the first port of call.
DS is now 18mo and his relationship with his father has really transformed in the last couple of months. Now he cuddles his dad, settles with his dad and sometimes even chooses to go to his dad to hear a book instead of me (
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His understanding at 18mo is so much greater now that he can play far more sophisticated games with his dad that really build their relationship. And now DS is much closer to his dad, DH can settle him at night and often falls asleep and wakes up to a toddler smothering him with kisses.
The close relationship your baby makes with her mum is what sets her up to make other close relationships. As she gets older and more social, she will need input from more people. She will have a period of discovering her dad so your DH needs to cheer up and work on the stuff that makes their relationship special. He doesn't have to be the same as you - their own relationship will become obvious in time.
Sorry, long post but it hit a familiar nerve....