I am worried my best friend is about to embark on an affair.

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And before you say it, I know it's none of my bizz and that I should keep my beak out etc. But she has been very open with me (to the point of showing me text convos between her and this chap) and I can't help feeling very worried for her and her family (she knows this). Apart from saying that I think this is very dangerous and to be cateful, I can't do a lot else can I?

Yes I would. I wouldn't condone it necessarily but neither would I think it was my place to talk them out of it. The OPs friend, by telling lots of people, is probably just enjoying the attention and the excitment of the idea of an affair rather than being serious about it.

If she is showing your texts then you could just say you do not approve (or whatever it is you want to say) and then say you don't want to have anything to do with it.

If it were me, I wouldn't try and prevent it as another grown woman's life is hers to do what she wants with. If it were a friend of mine, I would say "I cannot condone this. People always think the grass is greener on the other side. Sometimes the solution is to tend to our own grass. If you get involved with this man, please don't think I am going to want to listen to the detaisl, as quite honestly, the less I know, the better."

You do not want to be responsible for her happiness, surely?

Been there - done that. A friend of mine hinted to a myself and 2 other friends on a night out that she as tempted by another man. We spent 4 hours that night practically pleading/begging her to not go ahead with the fling she was planning. We talked to her about the risks involved; losing her marriage, her daughters family life etc etc ....

She promised us she would knock it on the head and leave it as a fantasy.

Three months later she turned up my doorstep in floods of tears. She had embarked on the affair and had fallen in love. Again, I pleaded with her to end it, change her phone number, stop all contact, sort out her life with her husband and end her marriage if she wanted to, but stop the affair (for her own peace of mind, she was in a right state).

I had to keep all this a secret until the inevitable happened and she was caught. Cue separation, divorce, poverty, distressed child etc etc etc ...

The lover stuck around for about 3 months, and my friend says that the affair was a terrible mistake. She didn't listen to a word that anyone said to her, and I wish she had never told e any of it tbh. You have my sympathies!