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[BigGirlInASmallWorld]

I am still getting over the last guy. He lied, stole, cheated. Three years ago.

No romantic relationship is guaranteed for life, or to be problem free (as most of us know).

But I seriously fear that even when I do feel OK with myself (I'm having therapy), the memory of the hell I went through with and after that man will be enough to keep me in fear of dating.

I'm :( about it, really.

I'd love to meet a guy, fall in love be happy, really. Maybe feeling OK about me will prevent me from not trusting my judgments and enjoying a man's company.

Are you scared of being hurt enough to keep you from dating?

Or have you vowed to stay single?

Think of it this way. You don't have to be in a relationship with someone for those things to happen. I can tell you without fear of contradiction that so called friends can do these things to you too. You cannot let the awfulness of the past colour what should be your beautiful future - even though that is very much easier said than done.