Attracted to a woman

[Memoo]

I'm 37, married with three dc. I have never been attracted to woman appart from a childish crush I had on an older girl.

Do u think it's the fact that your lacking a best mate? Dh should be this but obviously isn't, your looking for something you havnt got as most people do at some points in a long relationship.

Noone is perfect, you are putting this woman on a pedestal, I think you need to look at your marriage and either make a go of it or end it.

OP, I think you could be Bi because I have had a similar experience. In my case DH was supportive and enouraging and it didnt take long for us to get sexual. But it also resulted in a threesome with my DH and surprisingly the attraction to my DH came back and re ignited our sex life.

I'm not going to persue anything other than friendship with her because I want to remain with my dh. Obviously out relationship needs a lot of work but that is something I'm going to address.

Ive had a few female friends who I have been very close to before but this is completely different. I don't think I'm putting her on a pedestal because I do see her faults (for want of a better word)

Hello, personally I don't think sexuality is set in stone, it's a fluid thing and we (I mean women) are (as a generalisation) attracted to more than just a gender. So it's not unusual to have relationships with men, do all the usual things then bam! meet another woman that we just - for reasons we often can't fathom - click with on many levels, and those feelings become sexual.

OP, if you don't mind me asking - why do you and your dh not have sex? Do you think you would have noticed this woman if your relationship with your dh was better?

Memoo - just noticed this thread.. You should check out For Likeatonneofbricks thread in Relationships.

There's also a new thread just started by Gay40, Welcome To The Turning Tavern x

I have these feelings over a woman I know. I don't see her often but when I do it all comes flooding back and I can't stop thinking about her. My thoughts are never sexual though which is confusing!

it's a girl crush, lots of people have them, cheryl cole likes rihanna for example. it seems like an escape from real life for you. enjoy it while you can but dont take it too seriously.