4 years on from d-day

[calmafterthestorm]

Its four years since I discovered my (now ex) h affair. I'm so grateful to all the lovely MNers who helped me at that awful time and carried me through, it really was such wonderful support and meant a lot to know that others had walked that path.
It was so indescribably hard at times but it gets easier and better and I just wanted to send some love and support to those people on that path now. I got dcs fish and chips today and thought it's bloody lovely being on my own with no-one to answer to and I wish I'd known those years ago I'd feel this way

Erm, happy anniversary ???

Ach, no, you know what I mean

It's good to have it confirmed that there is life after such devastating circumstances

I agree being on your own after a cheating husband discovery and recovery truly is b l i s s.

thankyou AF and you were most blunt helpful at the time as I remember it was what I needed to hear. I thought then that I couldn't live without him but guess what! I can

of course you can live without him calm its just at the time of finding out you are in shock and it is an upheaval.

Good on you for having fish and chips.

You're right jax it is the shock - and the dreadful blow to everything you held dear and your self esteem as well and seeing your dcs hurt and the humiliation and having to make big decisions and pick yourself up when you don't feel like it at all. It really is the rug being pulled from under your feet. Time is such a great healer I think.
fish and chips were delicious might make it an annual celebration of survival

yes, love, all of us can live without these inadequate men

they drag you down...it can take a while before you understand that though

and only by getting out from underneath their suffocating presence, can you see things clearly

< pinches a chip >

It's true. you feel you can't cope alone because you're so ground down and put down by the cheating spouse.
can I add, to set the scene that we had a candle on with the fish and chips

tried to get dcs to eat it from the paper (to save washing up ) but they wanted plates

thank you for posting cats, I know i will leave one day and hearing your positive outcome only helps people like me.

fish and chips sounds fab

Love reading posts like this.

I am at 9mo from discovery, DD is 4 tomorrow. Although I have come a long way I still have a long way to go, but I know I will get there, just not sure when.

thanks sivereyes and good luck. Keep on keeping on smellyfeet, you will and happy birthday to dd for tomorrow

:)