Found something on Dp's phone

[hattieboo2012]

my DP's ex had a toddler. Dp's ex used him for all he had and treated him badly so last year he broke up with her. He no longer sees the child.

Dp has just given me his old phone. When I type something in the search engine, it comes up with a history of what has been searched before.

So I just typed something beginning with 't' and 'taking name off birth certificate' came up. I didn't know his name was on birth certificAte. I don't know if it got removed, but aibu to want to query dp about this?

well if you want to ask him, ask him. why would you wonder whether or not to ask?

you might want to order the bcert if you suspect he would lie to you in his answer. i think bcerts are a matter of public record (i'm not British though, so don't quote me on that)

Are you asking this in seriousness? And you are in the wrong topic for AIBU.

Just calmly tell him what you have seen and ask for an explanation.

No one else can really tell you anything different.

You can get a copy of anyones birth certificate. I got a copy of my marriage and my sons birth certificate. online, sent by post. No problem at all. But you need to know date of birth, mum and dads name, where they were born etc

Does it really matter?

The child is not his I'm sure about that. I dont know if im being mosey asking him about it though. It's def what he's typed.

Just leave it. It doesn't really make any difference to you. I'd want to ask questions too in your position, but I'd try to remember that the subject is off-limits if it hasn't been mentioned before.

If they were married, she could have legally put his name on the birth certificate without him knowing, and he may have only just found out and want it taken off, but not wanted to upset you. If they werent married, he would have had tro be there to have his name on the birth certificate so would have known. Either way YANBU, to want to know.

How are you sure the child isn't his; because he told you it isn't his....? or his XP had child before he was on the scene?

He has mentioned the child before so I don't think it's off limits, but what if the mother decided to claim for
Child support if his name is still on there?

Listen, you sound like you are adding 2 + 2 and getting 5. What exactly do you want to know?

Please, how do you know the child isn't his

why are you worrying about that now?

before you think of what the implications are of him being on the bcert, you need to ASK him if he is on the bcert, and check yourself if you think he's lying...

From the OP, I didn't think the subject of whether her DP was on the bcert has ever arisen, so her DP hasn't lied about anything?

i know that, what i mean is, if she asks, and he denies he's on the bcert, and she thinks he's lying, then she can go and check the bcert herself if that makes her feel better

I still want to know how you know the child isn't his OP

Is it fairly common for men who aren't, and know they aren't, the father of a baby to be named as the father on a birth certificate? Do they have to pretend they are when the birth is registered?

Genuine questions btw, not doubting the OP. I really had no idea it was even possible.

if you are married your husband name goes down as father of the baby.
he does not have to go to register office.

If you are not married the father has to come with you to the register office other no father name goes on the cert.

if the dad want to go on the cert later on he can do it but not sure how

if you and father get married later on you can go and re register the child after the wedding.

Warren, I think I'd be inclined to tell him to shove the £2.50 where the sun don't shine