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thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 13:03

Not sure where to put this, so for now its going in here

I had words with a friend of mine the other night about something he posted on FB about me, and he has over reacted totally (in my eyes)

Basically I posted up a dislike of a song, as it holds really really bad memories for me and he posted on a comment I made, asking me was I drunk again, he does this often and it really annoys me, firstly because I rarely drink and secondly because he is supposed to be my best friend and if he thinks that about me, then others will assume the same

I told him by textl he was being unsupportive, just so you know lately our friendship is all about him and his woes.. ( I didnt tell him that though)
Anyways next morning I woke to a snotty text calling me a selfish nasty bitch that I was ungrateful and disloyal and I could fu*k off and not to bother contacting him again, I replied saying I was sorry he felt that way, and that I was glad he told me how he felt about me. His rant continued,at no time did I call him names, or slate him.I pointed out that for someone so selfish he only has to pick up the fone and I am there if I can be, either on the fone or in person, but he chose to ignore that message..Anyways to cut to the chase I have not contacted him since, for me the name calling was a deal breaker in our friendship...

What would ye do folks? We been friends a long time, its not the arguement I have issues with, I enjoy a decent arguement its the name calling and insults that have bothered me to be honest..

Can we move forward from this, or is it best to just say well I now know his feelings towards me...

thanks

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LiarsWife · 06/03/2012 13:05

Maybe best to have a chat rather than go via facebook or texts .. the written word can often be miscontrued .. x

thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 13:08

which part of never contact me again you selfish, nasty bitch did i misconstrue lol?

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HotDAMNlifeisgood · 06/03/2012 13:13

Ignore him, don't engage, don't try to prove him wrong or to keep repeating things he clearly doesn't want to hear.

This friendship is dead, I think.

I agree that name-calling is a Rubicon that really can't be un-crossed.

HotBurrito1 · 06/03/2012 13:15

Go with your instinct queen. Don't think I could carry on being friends.

LiarsWife · 06/03/2012 13:16

Fair enough ... I guess you know where you stand

thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 13:16

I do believe if he was all that bothered he wud have asked me why I said what I did rather than instantly go on the offensive n attack me, shows that what I thought was a decent friendship was rather one sided in my mind,,,

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BigGirlInASmallWorld · 06/03/2012 13:36

He insults you a lot!

Get. rid. he is.scum.

CrystalsAreCool · 06/03/2012 13:39

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BigGirlInASmallWorld · 06/03/2012 13:43

Is your friend religous?

thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 13:44

no hes not religious in the slightest, what makes u ask that?

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thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 13:49

Im hurt n puzzled by his attack on me, he tried sumthing similar once before when I disagreed with his point of view, but that was very early on in the friendship and we worked it out,, He has done similar with others and is very scathing of them, and puts other people down a lot, I guess thats why i'm not as devastated as I expected to be, his attitude seems to be he is perfect and how fooking dare u disagree with me or pull me up on any short comings I may have, while I can pull you to pieces if I like....

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thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 13:50

he is now blocked from fb, I just cant be bothered with the drama to be honest

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SinicalSanta · 06/03/2012 13:51

I wouldn't bother tbh.
let him off, he's adding nothing to your life.

As an aside I have no patience with facebook fights. For kids imo!

thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 13:56

Sinical your right in what you say, and no nor have I..We had a real life friendship, not a fb one, I just didnt like him asking was I drunk again on fb, thats the only reason I mentioned fb at all to be honest

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mojitomania · 06/03/2012 13:57

Blimey OP with friends like that who needs enemies?

Ignore, block, delete.

thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 14:00

done mojo lol

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BigGirlInASmallWorld · 06/03/2012 14:09

Because of his accusation of you being drunk. Some religions disallow alcohol.

BigGirlInASmallWorld · 06/03/2012 14:11

Just been through something similar. Nothing to do with alcohol.

thequeenoftarts · 06/03/2012 14:20

I understand now, ty

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