Hello ladies
Have a lovely wonderful delightful 4 month old daughter with my wonderful hubby who is just fab. What I want to know is how such brilliant people can be genetically linked to such a nasty individual? well she's not nasty - i'm over reacting - but she is driving me nuts and I need advice on how to handle things now before they get out of control.
Little bit of history to set the scene. Met hubby 7 years ago - he was at uni in a different part of the country to mother (he is an only child). MIL thought that when finishing uni he would return home and find a job locally - he had never said he was - but typical man never said he wasn't = even though he knew his plans! Anyway I come into his life and we set up a place together and I was basically blamed for stealing her little boy away from him. Anyway this was love and he is the one and we rode it out and she said alot of hurtful things especially after my mum died about 4 months after we met. Over the years its gotten better - we don't discuss what happened back then - MIL likes to think that she was testing the strength of our relationship, she was good as gold at the wedding and since then she's been ok.
This weekend we went to MIL for a surprise visit - because they live about 3 - 4 hours away we want them to see as much as possible of their only grandchild - especially since we don't plan on having any more children.
She made a passing comment about giving my child alcohol, I said that she was never to give my child alcohol until she was old enough (i'm quite relaxed about young teens having a little drop at the family dinner table - but not babies!) She responded - to me yes Debbie whatever you say (MOCKING Voice) then to my baby loud enough to hear - what mummy doesn't know won't hurt her - it will be our little secret.
I ignored it - but it really peeved me off. Its like some kind of control game for her - and not one I want to encourage with my child in the middle. I don't want her to encourage my child to lie when she's older to either of her parents, I don't want her to feed my child crap or booze - just because it was good enough for her son when he couldn't get to sleep - even though my baby doesn't have a problem with sleeping.
My baby started crying and she shouted ey! enough of that in a really load agressive tone and she keeps on asking when we're putting her on a bottle - so she can feed her (i'm bf).
I know she is desperate to do something grandmotherly or to look after her and show her off - which i'm all for but I don't trust her to care for her in the way that both my husband and I would wish her too and the more rubbish that comes out of her mouth the more inclined I am to ensure that she isn't left to look after her.
Advice please.
debs