Erectile dysfunction

[blushingm]

Dh has been having problems maintaining an erection for a while now - mostly since he was circumcised 3 years ago. It's got to the point that he has trouble even getting hard at all. He says he wants to but his penis doesn't do what his head wants to.

I was just wondering if any one or their Dh has suffered and if you managed to overcome it. It's really frustrating for both of us

Hi, blushingm. Is his circumcision is the only factor that might have a bearing, and not his health, stress or medication? In any case should see his GP - there is plenty of support for this condition and several things that could help the situation for you both.

I have been in your situation, and if you can possibly get some help you should. As the woman, I felt angry, frustrated, unattractive (not true), poor self-esteem, lonely, etc. In my case, and I hope not yours, his medication was essential and since nothing was going to change I decided to leave him. We are still friends, and there is a deep sadness when we are together that the relationship could not have been.

So good luck to you both with this problem .

Hi Op, my partner is diabetic so had this problem. He went to the doctors who prescribed Cialis and in a very matter of fact manner said he sees lots of chaps with this problem. Try to encourage him to see a doctor it really will help. Also try not to make it a big issue as his ego will get shot to pieces and then no-one will get any joy.

As for circumsion I think it is possibly the most barbaric thing a person could do to themselves or their child. I know it has left my partner with issues and I have to be quite sensitive with him in a way that I didn't have to be with uncircumcised partners. A big tip is get some really good lube, something like Pjur which is available on the internet, it makes things much nicer and may relax your DH enough to get hard.

Good luck Op.

Thanks everyone - he was circumcised at 32 due to scar tissue/v tight foreskin. The surgeon was a bit of a butcher and he had a lot of bleeding and it took longer than expected to heal. He'd had probs before as the foreskin was vvvv tight and could be painful but since the surgery it's been worse

He did mention dr but he wasn't keep on taking medication to 'help' as it kind of takes spontinaity away and he/we would have to plan in advance

If his foreskin is tight and painful he is probably associating sex with pain and fears the pain

I'm not sure what the answer is but maybe it's not so much erection medicine he needs but medical attention regarding the painful foreskin?

I have just started dating a guy with the same problem. That is why I am on here, so far the advice on here seems quite harsh, one left her hubby and the other thinks it is barbaric, not very encouraging.

Your message says that things got worse, so that must mean that they were better even after the op. So far the stuff I have looked at seems to suggest that it is the ejaculation that takes longer, but function can be normal. It seems it is the sensitivity of the male ego that is more to blame for the deterioration of things, rather than the change in performance. I know their actual sensitivity changes and thats why it takes longer, but they can still have normal intercourse. I think, and hope if you are both willing to work at it in a loving trusting way, things will be different, but better. We are considering going for counselling together to work on this, which is obviously different as it is a new relationship. But even in my willingness to work on the issue has already made a big difference in the bedroom. The male ego is a curios thing and it can so easily be linked to performance.

Your h's problem is why the wonder drug Viagra was created and the only wonder is that it wasn't invented along with the wheel.

The only planning your h will need to do is that required to pop a pill and enjoy let the miracle of modern science nature take its course.

I would hazard a guess that after a very few successful chemically aided performances, the remainder of his prescription will languish in the back of a drawer.