I am looking for some advice about the current difficult relationship with my family.
I have a family of my own, two boys and hubby, but my mother and siblings are really upsetting me. Since I have had the children they have never asked to see us at Christmas. We hardly ever see them as we live 200 miles away, but still, they never express a wish to see us over the Christmas period - or any other time. They tend to see each other and their respective in-laws. My husbands family are in Ireland so difficult to see them at Christmas which my family are aware of. So we are quite along at Christmas, which I know many MNs would relish! But makes we feel sad for my children.
Also, my mother 'never' asks us to stay. My sister says she has no room for visitors. This leaves my brother. He says, you know you can stay here anytime, but when we visit, he and his wife seem to see us as a hindrance.
At Christmas time, my brother never even called to say Happy Christmas (I called him but he never replied). I could go on. My mother has been sick and so we have arranged to go up and stay in a hotel for a couple of day soon.
I just feel like cutting the ties really but feel sad for my children. My sister is overbearing and bossy, and says, well you do live so far away! You would think we lived on the moon rather than just across country. We all have very busy lives (which we do too of course!).
What would you do?