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Fathers Day Birthdays Christmas etc

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LiarsWife · 04/03/2012 21:12

I wondered what everyone does for their ex's birthdays etc? It is my stbx's 40th this year and I wouldn't be buying him a present but i imagine i need to get him something from our DD 7 as she is too little to sort it herself

what do you do??

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TooEasilyTempted · 04/03/2012 21:17

I would leave it up to his parents or siblings to sort out a present for him from his DD.

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 04/03/2012 21:18

I would do a small gift off DD, maybe get her to choose?
I give DS a small sum of money and he sorts dad out, but he's a teenager now.

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 04/03/2012 21:22

Can I add that the same happens on my birthday too, so it can work both ways. Ex has no direct influence on what ds buys. :o

attheendoftheday · 04/03/2012 21:26

I would facilitate your dd making or choosing a present, but I wouldn't do it for her.

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LiarsWife · 04/03/2012 21:33

attheend .. I am smiling thinking of him opening a junk model for his 40th :-)

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LiarsWife · 04/03/2012 21:34

attheend .. I am smiling thinking of him opening a junk model for his 40th :-)

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Dee03 · 04/03/2012 21:46

My ds always buys something for his dad on birthdays, Xmas and fathers day. I only spend £5...I usually ask what he wants to get him and he usually says 'smellies' lol Smile

LineRunner · 04/03/2012 21:56

My ExH has never helped his children buy me a card or present ever, since he left.

I always left it to his family to to sort out his stuff from DCs.

Now they are older they can do what they like. He pays £30 a week child support out of his £35k+ salary. Last year he asked them for designer clothes for Christmas. Suffice to say, he didn't receive them. Twat.

elastamum · 04/03/2012 21:59

I always get presents and cards for my ex from the children and he always gets something for me. I think it is important that they learn to mark family birthdays regardless of our relationship.

HueyMorganismyboyfriend · 04/03/2012 22:07

That's my thinking too elastamum my ex was a an adulterous bastard. But my ds beloved dad at the end of the day.

Smadarama · 04/03/2012 22:08

I buy a £10-15 present on DS' behalf. I try to get DS to think of what to buy but that doesn't always work. His dad does the same for me.

Happylander · 04/03/2012 22:13

I sat and helped DS make his dad a christmas card but I got nothing back. I also helped him make christmas cards for all ex family but again got nothing back but then they haven't spoken to me since the cheating, lying ex walked out on me and DS I even had to send them a text on christmas day asking them to call DS. I still think it is important that he learns to mark special occasions though even though it isn't reciprocated.

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LiarsWife · 04/03/2012 22:18

It's the first year for us.. I've just realised that mothers day and my birthday come first so I'll see what he does for me and take it from there ... Although he spent over £300 on me at Christmas. Guilt is obviously expensive!!! :)

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LiarsWife · 18/03/2012 10:24

Well I've had my answer.. my mum got me earrings from DD (she helped DD save pocket money) and MIL bought me a I love my mum wine glass with teddy bear set .. So she can just buy his fathers day present and birthday too

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